Question:
I am doing a school project on teen parenting and need 6 people who would like to answer 15 survey questions that i have. Based on 6 articles i have read, i had to summarize and compose 15 questions and give them to 1 more person who became a parent as teen and 1 more who became a parent after their teen years.
1. When you found out that you were pregnant, how did you react at first?
2. How did your parents feel about it, did they support your decisions?
3. How did you feel about the people around you that may or may not have been stereotypical towards you?
4. What problems set you aside most while you were pregnant? (pertaining to friends, and everyday life, what was hardest to do.What is the number one, hardest thing about being a young mother? )
5.If you were planning on having a baby, how quickly did you learn that it wasn’t going to be easy to take care of a child, especially at such a young age?
6. what advice would you give to a teen now who wants to become a mother?
7. were you able to complete high school, or even move on to college after you had the baby?
8.knowing what we do now about teen pregnancy, would you say that it is a rising problem for the world today?
9. Do you ever wish that you would have waited to have sex, or wish that you could take it back?
10. how fast did you have to grow up and out of regular teen ways once you had the baby?
11. what skills had to be developed in order to be a better teen parent?
12. were you able to get a job to support yourself?
13. would you say that your life has changed for the better or the worse because of getting pregnant?
14. were you able to keep the baby or forced to give it away and how did that affect you as a parent?
15. Because the US is the leader in teen pregnancies, what ways could we educate teens better to understand that remaining abstinent will prevent you from getting pregnant, and that we should live our lives to the fullest and not be brought down because of a silly mistake?
I know a lot of boring questions, trust me i dont want to do it but i have to. lol. thanks for helping me out in any case!
the teacher wants us to get names, phone numbers, the age you were when you first became a parent, current age, and how i contacted people to get the information. Personaly i wouldnt want to give out my phone number so im not going to ask for yours, because of privacy and such.
Again thanks for helping me out!!
thanks for helping me!
May 5, 2011 at 11:21 pm
1. When you found out that you were pregnant, how did you react at first?
I was so happy, we were trying to get pregnant… so YAY!
2. How did your parents feel about it, did they support your decisions?
I only speak to my father, and he was excited.
3. How did you feel about the people around you that may or may not have been stereotypical towards you?
People generally think I’m older than I actually am, so there isn’t much stereotyping of me as a young unwed teenage mother…
4. What problems set you aside most while you were pregnant? (pertaining to friends, and everyday life, what was hardest to do.What is the number one, hardest thing about being a young mother? )
For me, it was putting off university for an extra semester, I was only planning on not going to one semester, but now I’ll be taking two in total off.
5.If you were planning on having a baby, how quickly did you learn that it wasn’t going to be easy to take care of a child, especially at such a young age?
I haven’t. I don’t live the average life of a teenager. So I can’t really answer this.
I also haven’t given birth yet, and I’m sure I’ll learn quickly the loads of work that are going to be put towards the care of my beautiful daughter.
6. what advice would you give to a teen now who wants to become a mother?
Depends on their age. I’m 18, so it’s a little different. I was out of high school, and money is not a problem. However, I would simply tell them that it’s their decision. How will this affect their longterm goals? etc. I think they should write down a life plan for themselves and see when they can fit in having a baby. The earliest time, and they should wait until then. That’s what I ended up doing.
7. were you able to complete high school, or even move on to college after you had the baby?
Well I’m still enrolled in university and my baby will be almost six months old when I go back, it was planned that way so that I could be like a working mother.
8.knowing what we do now about teen pregnancy, would you say that it is a rising problem for the world today?
9. Do you ever wish that you would have waited to have sex, or wish that you could take it back?
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No, I’ve been with only one guy, since I was 14. We’ve been together for almost four years. No regrets
10. how fast did you have to grow up and out of regular teen ways once you had the baby?
Like I said, I was never a regular teen. Sorry, It’s just true.
11. what skills had to be developed in order to be a better teen parent?
Patience.
12. were you able to get a job to support yourself?
I don’t need or want one other than my jobs around the house (running a garden and a shop, I’m sort of self-employed).
13. would you say that your life has changed for the better or the worse because of getting pregnant?
Much better
14. were you able to keep the baby or forced to give it away and how did that affect you as a parent?
I’m keeping her.
15. Because the US is the leader in teen pregnancies, what ways could we educate teens better to understand that remaining abstinent will prevent you from getting pregnant, and that we should live our lives to the fullest and not be brought down because of a silly mistake?
Well, it’s not really as simple as not getting down on yourself because of a silly mistake. Because in most cases, it’s a huge mistake that will impact this teenager for the rest of her life. I think the sex-ed system does an alright job at educating teenagers about the risks of sex.
Barbara Deveau
18 currently pregnant,
Should be 19 when Estelle arrives,
18,
Through Yahoo.
May 5, 2011 at 11:44 pm
1) When i found out i was pregnant i was excited but scared at the same time!
I do think its a rising problem i know someone who wants her daughter to have a baby just because of the welfare, child support and taxes at the end of the year! Its terrable to bring a baby into this world for the wrong reasons!
2) My mom wasnt to mad about it but my step dad and biological dad didnt take it to great, eventually they all got over it and was very supportive.
3) I was in a school where a lot of teenagers were pregnant so it wasnt bad at all!
4) I didnt have many friends when i got pregnant i was the new girl in the school and didnt really have time to make friends or anything so i mainly sat at home even before being pregnant. The hardest thing about being a young mother to me is not knowing what to do when your babies crying or when hes sick or bumps his head!
5) I learned right as soon as i had my son that things wouldnt be easy! It was hard for me to get back in school mainly because i wanted to spend all my time with my baby boy.
6) That its really hard and the father of the child never stays around like you think! It doesnt make the relationship stronger and it wont make him stay with you, actually he might just take off running the other way.
7) I never got to finish my high school year i dropped out my freshman year and thought it would be easier to get my ged and i still havent been able to get that done i just dont have the time, im a stay at home mommy.
9) I never ever wish that i could take it back my baby boy was the best thing that ever happened to me and i wouldnt trade him for the world!
10) I grew up really quick i had to stop doing everything i used to do to be with my baby, changing diapers, feeding, playing with them and just loving them is a full time job.
11) It kind of came naturally to me i had been around younger children for my whole life and kind of knew what to do!
12) No i never got a job me my boyfriend and my son are living with my parents, thankfully my boyfriend was able to find a great paying job to take care of us.
13) I would have to say for the better my son gives me a reason to want to be here and want to better myself!
14) I kept my baby and im glad i did, dont get me wrong its really hard but hes worth it. Adoption never ran through my mind!
15) Were pretty much doing all we can, teenagers are hard to get through and there going to do whatever they want anyways, my mom talked to me about safe sex and told me how hard it is and i still got pregnant!
May 6, 2011 at 12:28 am
1. When you found out that you were pregnant, how did you react at first?
I was more worried about telling my parents than anything, I never told them that it was a planned pregnancy
2. How did your parents feel about it, did they support your decisions?
My mom was excited after she was done worrying, my dad was disappointed because I was always the one in the family that did everything right.
3. How did you feel about the people around you that may or may not have been stereotypical towards you?
Everyone was actually pretty nice to me, I think it was because they knew me though, I have always been responsible, and they knew that I could handle it.
4. What problems set you aside most while you were pregnant? (pertaining to friends, and everyday life, what was hardest to do.What is the number one, hardest thing about being a young mother? )
It wasn’t hard at all being pregnant woman were created being able to be pregnant. The hardest part about being a young mother thought, is that you know you want to give your child everything, and yet, they could be 5 or 6 until you have a good enough job to take care of them the way you want too.
5.If you were planning on having a baby, how quickly did you learn that it wasn’t going to be easy to take care of a child, especially at such a young age?
I knew it was going to be hard before I got pregnant. I realized how hard it was when I was tired from only a few hours of sleep, and the baby wouldn’t go to sleep, being tired makes you a whole different person, and my boyfriend never helped because he worked 12 hour days. Being a mother is one thing, but doing everything yourself is another, and it really takes it’s toll.
6. what advice would you give to a teen now who wants to become a mother?
Unless you want to give up your whole life, having a kid is best when you have your life together, after kids, there is no sleep, there is no just getting out, there is no life but bills and the occasional day out when you can find a babysitter.
7. were you able to complete high school, or even move on to college after you had the baby?
I actually had to do an extra year of high school, the chances of me going to college is not good, money comes into question, and leaving the baby all the time, it would just be a mess, but I do plan to do something eventually, after my boyfriend does his schooling.
8.knowing what we do now about teen pregnancy, would you say that it is a rising problem for the world today?
The real problem today is young girls getting pregnant when they aren’t ready, a young girl can be ready, but most are NOT, they don’t understand, having a baby isn’t just taking care of a child, it is emotionally, mentally and physically demanding, there is no free time, you don’t just leave after 6 hours like as if you were babysitting, this goes on for 18 years maybe longer, it is a job you can’t quit. it is a job that never ends. teens can barely handle high school, how could they possibly handle a child too.
9. Do you ever wish that you would have waited to have sex, or wish that you could take it back?
You can’t look at your baby’s face and regret anything, because you know that it’s not their fault and if anything they have added to your life. I do however wish I had waited for sex since, as soon as you have sex, a relationship is just that, sex. I try to sit my now fiance down and talk, but it’s quickly abandoned.
10. how fast did you have to grow up and out of regular teen ways once you had the baby?
Like I said before I have always been responsible, and I was pretty much grown up, I had an adult view on life. My fiance however needed to grow up fast, and that took him a year, and he still has some growing up to do.
11. what skills had to be developed in order to be a better teen parent?
I don’t know, I still have the same skills, I guess I learned to clean better, and organize things, but I had already known everything else I needed to know.
12. were you able to get a job to support yourself?
I am lucky enough to have a fiance that has a job while I stay at home and watch my daughter.
13. would you say that your life has changed for the better or the worse because of getting pregnant?
It depends really, education wise it has changed for the worse, but my life feels like it couldn’t be any better.
14. were you able to keep the baby or forced to give it away and how did that affect you as a parent?
I kept the baby, I would never let anyone take her away from me.
15. Because the US is the leader in teen pregnancies, what ways could we educate teens better to understand that remaining abstinent will prevent you from getting pregnant, and that we should live our lives to the fullest and not be brought down because of a silly mistake?
if it was a “silly mistake” it wouldn’t be a problem, and when you have kids your opinion of living life the fullest is going to have to change. We need to show kids what it’s li
May 6, 2011 at 1:17 am
1. When you found out that you were pregnant, how did you react at first? i was happy
2. How did your parents feel about it, did they support your decisions? they were ok with it
3. How did you feel about the people around you that may or may not have been stereotypical towards you? i was happy so i don’t care about them
4. What problems set you aside most while you were pregnant? (pertaining to friends, and everyday life, what was hardest to do.What is the number one, hardest thing about being a young mother? ) the stress
5.If you were planning on having a baby, how quickly did you learn that it wasn’t going to be easy to take care of a child, especially at such a young age? i knew it was hard
6. what advice would you give to a teen now who wants to become a mother?go for it
7. were you able to complete high school, or even move on to college when you have the baby? yes
8.knowing what we do now about teen pregnancy, would you say that it is a rising problem for the world today? yes because most teenagers can not cope with a baby
9. Do you ever wish that you would have waited to have sex, or wish that you could take it back? im glad i have a baby
10. how fast did you have to grow up and out of regular teen ways once you had the baby?very quickly
11. what skills had to be developed in order to be a better teen parent? what to expect and not to take judgements
12. were you able to get a job to support yourself?no i dont have one
13. would you say that your life has changed for the better or the worse because of getting pregnant? better
14. were you able to keep the baby or forced to give it away and how did that affect you as a parent? i get to keep it
May 6, 2011 at 1:38 am
1. When you found out that you were pregnant, how did you react at first? I was really really scared but happy at the same time
2. How did your parents feel about it, did they support your decisions?My mom kicked me out when she first found out but then she realized it was my decision and i was to stubborn to listen to anything anybody had to say and then she was very supportive
3. How did you feel about the people around you that may or may not have been stereotypical towards you? I didn’t really care.
4. What problems set you aside most while you were pregnant? (pertaining to friends, and everyday life, what was hardest to do.What is the number one, hardest thing about being a young mother? ) My friends cause alot of drama and i just set aside that and set aside parties. the hardest thing about being a young mother is probably finishing school
5.If you were planning on having a baby, how quickly did you learn that it wasn’t going to be easy to take care of a child, especially at such a young age?
6. what advice would you give to a teen now who wants to become a mother? Don’t become a teen mom don’t throw away your life before you have a chance to live it
7. were you able to complete high school, or even move on to college after you had the baby? I got my GED because high school was to overwhelming for me and when my daughter is older I’m going to try to move on to college
8.knowing what we do now about teen pregnancy, would you say that it is a rising problem for the world today? Yes
9. Do you ever wish that you would have waited to have sex, or wish that you could take it back? I love my daughter shes my life but yes i just wish i would have waited
10. how fast did you have to grow up and out of regular teen ways once you had the baby? Pretty fast when she was first born i went back to high school and wanted to go to parties and stuff but then i realized my daughters more I’mportant
11. what skills had to be developed in order to be a better teen parent? Patience and You have to learn that your kid is your #1 priority all the time
12. were you able to get a job to support yourself? Kinda im still looking for a job
13. would you say that your life has changed for the better or the worse because of getting pregnant? Better if i didn’t get pregnant i probably would have got caught up in the wrong crowd and got into alot of trouble
14. were you able to keep the baby or forced to give it away and how did that affect you as a parent? I kept it
15. Because the US is the leader in teen pregnancies, what ways could we educate teens better to understand that remaining abstinent will prevent you from getting pregnant, and that we should live our lives to the fullest and not be brought down because of a silly mistake? I think that instead of having older people who are not teen moms teaching these kids they should have real teen mom telling them about how much they struggle