Question: This is really messed up, i need some unbiased opinions on this one…
My boyfriends neice is three years old, and extremely undisciplined. let me give you a little background before i get into it…Her mother was abused as a child, and everytime the father tried to discipline her ie spanking or yelling, the mother would freak out and assume he was going to start abusing her. They recently got a divorce, child is living with the mother (continuing to do whatever she wants and get away with it) and the mothers new boyfriend whom the child is told to call him her new daddy. needless to say, with her lack of discipline, on top of a custody battle, at three years old, she can be a handfull.
Well, recently she has been acting up in preschool. Throwing fits, and even going as far as hitting and biting the teacher, which is something we’ve been told she does to her mother at home (never does this around her dad, i know because i spend alot of time with her) after the fourth time being called and told that her child has gotten in trouble, the mother decides to take her to a psychiatrist.
They spent ten minutes in the psychiatrists office, and like any other three year old, she started throwing a fit. She wanted to go home, her mother said she couldn’t. Well, she hit her mother, right there infront of the doctor. Seeing this, the doctor came to the conclusion (after spending all but ten minutes with her mind you) that this innocent three year old child is bipolar.
Now this doctor prescribed her a bipolar medacation called resperdone…and i really don’t believe that you can really say a three year old is bipolar. i’m sure the doctor doesn’t know the backround of the child, because it is very clear to me why she behaves the way she does.
any thoughts, opinions, or advice on this will be greatly appriciated, as i am at a loss for words, and completely in disbelief that this could happen.
Question: I need input: she says I yell at her when I use my stern voice to correct her. In our home, there are rules and consequences for not following them. For instance, losing the cellphone if grades drop, or losing the Wii or computer privileges for not cleaning her room, etc. She visits w/her biological dad every other weekend and so, he’s the “fun” dad since he takes her to the movies and out to eat, etc. but does nothing as far as discipline or schoolwork/school activities, etc. He shows no interest in any of that and leaves that up to us. Once she gets home, I automatically become the strict step-dad. My wife & I also have 2 younger children and treat them all fairly & equally but no matter what I do, she’s not happy.
Before she met me, there were no rules, no punishment and at 4 years old, she basically did whatever she wanted without consequences from her parents. So I could understand how it looked to her, here I come in her life and set rules and boundaries and expect them to be followed.
I’m not strict 100% of the time, I’m actually strict about 10% of the time but when one of the kids has to be corrected, they’re gonna be corrected. She used to roll her eyes and talk back to us but thankfully, that has changed over the years. My biggest fear is that she will be 18 and have this horrible story that I ruined her childhood because she saw me as the step-dad from hell that “always yelled at her”. When all I’m really doing is correcting her. Of course, I praise her when she does well, I participate at her school activities and even coach her teams. She is MY daughter as far as I’m concerned but why is she so upset with me? She recently said that she hates having 2 families and hates the fact that my wife & her dad broke up all those years ago but I’ve been in her life 7 of her 11 years! I’ve told my wife that I feel like I should completely back out of anything that has to do with her but I know that will backfire in the end for not being involved enough. I feel like I can’t win…
I know I’m not the first step-parent to have issues but I need some sort of advice. Help?
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Question: I wouldn’t be surprised if i was the nicest person on this planet. I’m quiet, I concertrate at school, love my parents (unlike some teens at school I know), listen to my parents and i love helping people. I respect anyone and everyone, i’m not a racist and i’m an awesome person to approach.
I’m about 5ft- 5ft1 and i the past couple of years (i’m in year 9 currently), i have been severly bullied by these girls and bitchy boys, ho have been my “friends” for the past 3 years. They have kicked soccer balls at me during recesses and lunches, laughed at me, never stuck up for me when i was being put down, and they now recently started telling people i said nasty things about them but i swear on my life i said no such thing.
i don’t swear and tease and ESPECIALLY i do not bully. Why is this happening? I come home most nights and cry and talk to my parents. This made my mum cry and both mum and dad cannot believe how heartless kids can be. They have bullid me so much that you wouldn’t start to BELIEVE the things they did.
I do have 1 best friend who comes to the same school and is in the same class and she is the most awesome person ever, but my other 2 best friends i’ve known since primary school and 1 of them since kindergarden, don’t come to my school and i sometimes see them. when i tell them these things they are sad for me and are sooo mad at what these kids do to me.
About the rumor they started, the one where i apparently called people awful things (which i haven’t) is going around to other students and they are all very upset. how do i clear these issues up and what do i tell the kids when i go back to school?
i feel as if i don’t deserve this and now they bully my best friend (who comes to my school) and she CERTAINLY doesn’t deserve this.
everyone says they want to hurt me and i don’t know what to do anymore.
I wish i can hurry up and go to university.
thank you for reading
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5) How do you resolve financial issues?
6) What do you think is the most important part of maintaining a happy, healthy marriage?
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9) Is there a couple you look up? What do you respect about their marriages?
10) How have the qualities that first attracted you to your mate changed over the years?
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14) What are three “red flags” that should signify that a couple is NOT ready for marriage?
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17) What roles did each of you play in disciplining your children?
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Question: My daughter is driving me nsane. Apparently I give good advice, but my own advice doesnt work for my child. She is acting completely out of control. She back talks to ANY and EVERY thing I say. She has an attitude all day long. Just today she got smart, I put her in time out and she starts screaming at me “Im mad because you didnt buy me nothing for my birthday – any of my birthdays thats why Im so mad!” And obviously we buy her presents, but she says things like that all the time that are not true just so she can yell and have an excuse for her actions. She is only 4 years old. She seems like she is so angry and I do not understand why. She is treated great and has anything she needs. I dont know what to do to get her to stop this. I have tried anything I know. Just now I was cleaning and her and her sister were playing, my husband called and I was talking to him for less than 2 minutes and she ran out the door, picked up a dead bird the cat killed and was playing with it. I told her
when I finished the dishes I would take them out to play and I had to get the dead bird up first. She doesnt listen to ANYTHING I say. I have no clue what to do with the exception of called Super Nanny. Please help me!
And by the way, I spank and that obviously isnt working either… just in case anyone suggests spanking let me get that out of the way.
Someone mentioned being neglected, and I have felt that she feels like this but I do not understand why. I give her as much attention as her sister, but she thinks me taking time to change her sisters diapers and make her a drink is me giving her more attention. I feel like there is no reasoning with her.
Question: this is kinda a follow-up. i do realize that 24 isn’t a young age but i am very concerned that i am putting myself in a situation where i may end up a single mother. the baby’s father doesn’t want this kid and is trying to make sure i terminate. i’ve told him i still don’t know what i want to do but i know there may be a real good chance he won’t be around for his kid. With a potential career in mind and furthering my education in the somewhat near future, i’m not sure if this the right decision. any advice from women who have been in the same situation?
Question:
How has your marriage evolved over the years?