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Having a child is the most monumental, yet unspoken, decision one can make. The responsibly one has to their child is the greatest one will ever have. A new parent is not only building a person, from their own being, but they are investing copious amount of time, emotions, and money, into their offspring. Many people do not understand the magnitude this role holds, and how amazing or awful this can turn out. It would be an understatement to say it is amazing when a child grows up to be a strong and honest person through a parent’s teachings. Through being a strong honest person they will pass the same characteristics on to their children. So on and so forth. It is one of the only chances to make a real difference in the world. Things can go opposite of “amazing” incredibly easy. Possibly without you even knowing, or wanting to know. Being willfully ignorant has never fixed a problem.
As being a parent you hold the seemingly impossible task of balancing discipline with the friendship of one’s child. Once you stop parenting, you are in a sense, done with your child. You are letting them free with all the knowledge you have instilled in them. Be aware that they must also learn from their own experience. They will make mistakes, and that is your time to be a friend. Listen to them. Give them advice taken from your own experiences. Keep in mind every person is different. They will have a number of different experiences then you. Use this chance to learn. Learn from their experiences. There will never be a point at which one stops learning.
Letting you child go at too early of an age can be extremely damaging. The chances are that they will have too many experiences too quickly, and they won’t make proper decisions. This will most likely cause them to repeat the same mistakes over and over never actually learning. A parent can also make the mistake of holding their children too long. If you control every action they make. The child will never have a chance to think for themselves. Thus causing them to have no experiences to learn from or too relate to. Both mistakes hold the child back from being a whole adult.
Ruling over your household with an iron fist and being stern will reinforce their outlook of you. Your child must, this is an absolute must, have immense respect for you. They will not listen to you if they do not respect you. You are also obligated to be caring and understanding. These totally separate actions are situational based. Always forgive your children, but without letting them know after every mistake. If they realize they will always be forgiven. They will figure out that there will not be any consequences for their actions. All efforts parenting would prove in vein at this point. Your child should be compelled to work for their rewards. If you are to hand them money, the child will not have the chance to appreciate the time and energy that you spent to gain that money. In order to gain this appreciation your child must work for their own money. You should not have any control over how it is spent. This way they will be able to make purchasing mistakes and learn from them. Reinforce what you have already taught them, if the opportunity arises.
One point that must not be forgotten is that there is no definite formula to raising a righteous person. It’s going to be an experience to say the utter least. Thoughts of pain from your childhood might haunt you and your parents alike. But those awful thoughts should also bring feelings of an indescribable joy and carelessness that you held in youth ignorance. The times before your child will have the ability to question your word could seem the most joyful. If the child is too untaught to make decisions properly, the joyfulness will change to frustration on both ends. Them consistently question you will bring vast ramifications. One of the more obvious problems would be for them to plainly disobey you. After disobeying you, they may not admit the mistake to you or, more importantly, to themselves. Often this would cause them to repeat the same mistake over, setting a pace for the rest of their lives. Towards the end of your job of parenting, the soon to be adult will make mistakes on their own, possibly against your word. How they handle themselves after the mistake will give you great insight as to what kind of person you have created. Letting your offspring live freely will be the utmost difficult time in parenting, only if you have, without a trace doubt, done your best.
Another important yet often over looked aspect to parenting is having the right partner. Mutual respect between the two of you cannot be missing. You must not get frustrated and act foolishly towards one and other in front of your children. Showing signs of disrespect between you and your mate will cause them lack vital respect for both parents. The partner you choose should have basically the same strengths and values that you hold. This will prevent your mate from tea