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I’ve come across many young girls as young as 13 on here talking about sex. I am older then you women out there speaking of these topics, and I want to give a little wisdom. I know you may come on here asking about sex and other things that come along with sex. Sweeties this is coming out of concern and wanting to give some help.

At a young age (early teens, mid teens, late teens even some early women in adulthood) Please hear me out. If you are a virgin, save that innocence. Trust me. Your boyfriend may say he loves you. He may say we can make it work and have the relationship last forever. He may pressure you with continuing about asking you to have sex.

Don’t do it. When you feel you are ready and you truly care about this person and you see a future either years or up to marriage then make the decision within yourself are you really ready or do you think you are or want to keep him around or think he is this amazing guy/young man. Please realize guys/men have 1 thing on their brian. Sex.

What they really want is to get into girls pants. Some guys will go to great lengths to have sex. Trust me the first few times are not good and they hurt. It is not enjoyable. When it is enjoyable is when you have a deep level of an intimate connection and some women do not find that even after many partners.

Having sex young does not make you an adult. It does not make you look good. And you can’t trust the guy to actually tell the truth. Trust me he will brag to friends. Some will gossip. Some may say it’s better without a condom. Been there. You may think this boyfriend is the one. Believe me even though you don’t know me, he most likely is not the one.

I hope the teens out there do read this, and if you are continue reading. Yes you will hear lectures of STDs and pregnancy. Please do not take this as a lecture, take it as wisdom and advice from someone who has been there and had major consequences.

My story. Personal. But I feel sharing it may reach out to some of you. My first time was not with someone I deeply cared about. It was with a boyfriend I had for a bit of time. I was on birth control still got pregnant. He was a legal adult (age of 18) I was not. I was 13. Yes girls are more mature then boys that age and even through men in their 20s. I ended up getting pregnant. Dumped. And got an STD on top of it.

I had gotten Chlamydia. And later on I had developed Pelvic Inflammatory Disease. I will end up infertile and if I get pregnant again I have a high chance of having life threatening complications. I did miscarry when I was 4 months pregnant. Let me tell you HURTS LIKE HELL. And if I would have not miscarried I would have been left as a single mother at 14 with no support from my parents. My mom wanted me to have an abortion. I said no, I cannot take a life of another living being and I would have been left on my own.

You may think ‘well this was your situation, that won’t happen to me’. Even if you don’t get pregnant, even if you don’t get an STD that doesn’t change other factors. You are not emotional ready for what a sexual relationship brings. Whether you have been dating a week, a month, a year. You really are too young. Pregnancy is always a possibility and birth control is not the answer. Condoms break, can be tampered with, slip.

I am not trying to scare you. I am trying to help you. Even through different intimate relationships it builds a whole different kind of emotional bond. When you are so young, still growing up, still developing in many ways, you are not really ready for that bond. You may be curious. You may be wanting a relationship taken to the next level, you may have many reasons. Trust me. Save the turmoil emotionally and hopefully not further then that and save your virginity.

Be that girl that every guys wants because you don’t put out. You can determine your whole life from one night of ”fun”. And really in reality statistic wise and coming from many women’s mouths, and studies – to have a full on enjoyable sexual relation (trying to keep it G rated) more then 90% of men/guys cannot give you a good time.

Many guys once they get in your pants will hurt you in the end. Majority will. Save yourself and your emotional well being because you are worth more then sex.

I hope you read this if you are a young women or teen. I hope I can show you a different light and show you some wisdom from life experience. Sweetie you are worth so much more then you think. I hope I got through even just a little to a few of you younger women out there.
Also had to deal with my mom taking him to court and getting a restraining order because it is considered Statutory Rape. Even though I consented. Court is not fun either.

With the Pelvic Inflammatory Disease I have a higher risk of getting Syphilis and HIV as well.

The emotional bond a mother will get with a child even if you only carry for 4 months is indescribable and it hurts the heart. PID hurts horribly and you are SICK too when you have flare ups and it puts major damage to your organs.

Please hear me out these young women (teens included with the term young women) Please take something from this and this is coming from a heartfelt place in my heart. Think of yourself. You are worth it.