December 6th, 2011
Question:
So this is the deal my husband and I have a beautiful 2 1/2 year old baby girl or big girl as she likes to call herself
. This is the situation my husband already has two boys from a previous relationship oldest will be 7 this year and the other 4. Now I have taken them under my wing and love them very much but I want another for me I know we have “3 kids” but I will always have had only one child. I have asked my husband for another but he really doesn’t want one. I have been a house wife for awhile raising our daughter and helping with his boys when he was deployed but lately I want another. (Im going back to school soon) Well The other day he said once I get my finish with school and work for like a year we can have another and that excited me but…. That is like 3 to 4 years from now our youngest will be 6 almost 7 by then I don’t think I would want another. All the kids will be in school. So should I have one now? Or do think after that long I will want another. I was also thinking that is a big gap between the kids. There is a big gap between my younger brother and sister and me. I feel my mom raised me way more harsh than she is with them now. So what im saying is if I wait that long I don’t want that to be the slacker kid the one we don’t discipline as hard… I don’t know advice please!
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December 5th, 2011
Question:
I wanted to graduate highschool at first but right now with working and being a teen mother ( no judgment i know i made my mistakes in the past but ive learned from them & moved on & not repeating, my son is my life now) Its just too hard. Im not too good in school either, ive been doing homeschooling but its so hard trying to watch a child & do your work. My dream has always been to help people & be a nurse. So nursing school is my plan. So I was thinking of getting a GED. Is this a good idea. Will nursing schools accept this. I don’t know much about GEDs so please give me information if you have it & advice. I haven’t talked to my parents yet until I have decided. I just want to make the right decision.
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October 21st, 2011
Question:
I’m in 8th grade and my friends are all thirteen and fourteen years old, last night I hanging out with my friends. We were all walking around my friend’s block, right on her street. She also has a park right by her backyard, so we went through her yard and hung out at the park for awhile. This was between the hours of like 9 and 11. When I told my Dad, he seemed upset. =/ He said that he didn’t think it was appropriate for 8th graders to be walking around at night.
Now, I try not to be close-minded with my parents. I realize that in the end, they DO know best. So, I felt bad for making him upset, but I honestly had no idea he wouldn’t approve of it. Parents of teens, I need your advice! Would you allow me to do this if I were your daughter?
Thanks for all your input, I really appreciate it!
To answer your questions – Yes, we all have cell phones. It was a Friday night. I live in a little suburban town I gues you could say. =]
millie-vanillie, you’re fourteen too…idk why YOU would say that. =/
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September 30th, 2011
Question:
Hello everybody,
I’m kind of doubting right know. I’m 17 y/o, 18 in september, and I’m doing my final exams this year. I’m the best in all school subjects, and the best of my year, and I can easily start studying medicine (we have a numerus fixus here), they’ll take me straightaway, I’ll graduate without a doubt. I don’t have to do anything for school, those good marks all just happen, I never do homework, I never have to learn for tests. I have like lots of spare time left, I also do a lot of sports, I play music instruments and I am a (voluntary) child animator (don’t know what’s called in English) with little children (scouting).
I would like to study medicine, I think being a doctor wouldn’t be a boring job, but I also love to do exchanges. I think it’s really interesting, I’ve done several exchanges on our school, but those were only two weeks. I just love the cultural part, and I would like to become more fluent in English, (preferably) French or German.
So my problem is, should I just do my final exams and go studying medicine, or should I do a high school year somewhere? On the one hand, going abroad for a year costs an awful lot of money, and I would lose a year that I could have studied (becoming a doctor takes like so many years of study!). I also know someone who did a high school year kinda exchanges in the states, and when he came back he never went to school anymore, his ‘school discipline’ was kinda spoiled. On the other hand, I would really, really love to do that, because when I’m thinking about that I feel like doing it, while I don’t really get excited when thinking about studying medicine. And maybe later on, when I’m looking back, and I would like to do/have done it, but I would be too old, because now is the only time I can do it!
But still, although I would get lots of experiences, my parents might think it’s useless, because you can study better when you’re younger. So what should I do? I’ve been thinking about it for like more than 2 years, and last year I’ve decided I’d study after my final exams, but this week I had an exchange with Germany, and it was really fun, I really loved it, and the German who stayed with me had been on a high school year to New Zealand (btw he had to double a year because he was abroad a year, but that doesn’t apply to me because I’d have finished school by then).
Please give me some advice? What should I consider? I don’t expect to get the decisive answer here, but it could give me something to think about!
Thank you so much!
Well, what I mean is that I’m already in my final year of secondary school (we don’t have high school in Europe) and I’m doubting wether I should do it NEXT school year or not
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September 27th, 2011
Question:
Hello everybody,
I’m kind of doubting right know. I’m 17 y/o, 18 in september, and I’m doing my final exams this year. I’m the best in all school subjects, and the best of my year, and I can easily start studying medicine (we have a numerus fixus here), they’ll take me straightaway, I’ll graduate without a doubt. I don’t have to do anything for school, those good marks all just happen, I never do homework, I never have to learn for tests. I have like lots of spare time left, I also do a lot of sports, I play music instruments and I am a (voluntary) child animator (don’t know what’s called in English) with little children (scouting).
I would like to study medicine, I think being a doctor wouldn’t be a boring job, but I also love to do exchanges. I think it’s really interesting, I’ve done several exchanges on our school, but those were only two weeks. I just love the cultural part, and I would like to become more fluent in English, (preferably) French or German.
So my problem is, should I just do my final exams and go studying medicine, or should I do a high school year somewhere? On the one hand, going abroad for a year costs an awful lot of money, and I would lose a year that I could have studied (becoming a doctor takes like so many years of study!). I also know someone who did a high school year kinda exchanges in the states, and when he came back he never went to school anymore, his ‘school discipline’ was kinda spoiled. On the other hand, I would really, really love to do that, because when I’m thinking about that I feel like doing it, while I don’t really get excited when thinking about studying medicine. And maybe later on, when I’m looking back, and I would like to do/have done it, but I would be too old, because now is the only time I can do it!
But still, although I would get lots of experiences, my parents might think it’s useless, because you can study better when you’re younger. So what should I do? I’ve been thinking about it for like more than 2 years, and last year I’ve decided I’d study after my final exams, but this week I had an exchange with Germany, and it was really fun, I really loved it, and the German who stayed with me had been on a high school year to New Zealand (btw he had to double a year because he was abroad a year, but that doesn’t apply to me because I’d have finished school by then).
Please give me some advice? What should I consider? I don’t expect to get the decisive answer here, but it could give me something to think about!
Thank you so much!
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September 25th, 2011
Question:
Hello everybody,
I’m kind of doubting right know. I’m 17 y/o, 18 in september, and I’m doing my final exams this year. I’m the best in all school subjects, and the best of my year, and I can easily start studying medicine (we have a numerus fixus here), they’ll take me straightaway, I’ll graduate without a doubt. I don’t have to do anything for school, those good marks all just happen, I never do homework, I never have to learn for tests. I have like lots of spare time left, I also do a lot of sports, I play music instruments and I am a (voluntary) child animator (don’t know what’s called in English) with little children (scouting).
I would like to study medicine, I think being a doctor wouldn’t be a boring job, but I also love to do exchanges. I think it’s really interesting, I’ve done several exchanges on our school, but those were only two weeks. I just love the cultural part, and I would like to become more fluent in English, (preferably) French or German.
So my problem is, should I just do my final exams and go studying medicine, or should I do a high school year somewhere? On the one hand, going abroad for a year costs an awful lot of money, and I would lose a year that I could have studied (becoming a doctor takes like so many years of study!). I also know someone who did a high school year kinda exchanges in the states, and when he came back he never went to school anymore, his ‘school discipline’ was kinda spoiled. On the other hand, I would really, really love to do that, because when I’m thinking about that I feel like doing it, while I don’t really get excited when thinking about studying medicine. And maybe later on, when I’m looking back, and I would like to do/have done it, but I would be too old, because now is the only time I can do it!
But still, although I would get lots of experiences, my parents might think it’s useless, because you can study better when you’re younger. So what should I do? I’ve been thinking about it for like more than 2 years, and last year I’ve decided I’d study after my final exams, but this week I had an exchange with Germany, and it was really fun, I really loved it, and the German who stayed with me had been on a high school year to New Zealand (btw he had to double a year because he was abroad a year, but that doesn’t apply to me because I’d have finished school by then).
Please give me some advice? What should I consider? I don’t expect to get the decisive answer here, but it could give me something to think about!
Thank you so much!
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September 15th, 2011
Question:
Like going to a friends house(even them coming over), the movies, a party etc . I can only do that twice a month cuz of my parents :/ and I think that’s pretty lame . How much do u usually go out ina week and can u gimme some advice to persuade my parents to trust me ? I’m fourteen by the way .
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September 14th, 2011
Question:
My friend’s girlfriend is being abandoned by her parents. Her parents are moving soon and won’t let her come with them so she doesn’t know what to do. I would invite her to stay with me, but she lives in a different city, so she goes to a different school. She didn’t mention any relatives or friends she could stay with. I want to help her! Is there some kind of .org site or hot-line that gives advice of what to do when this happens? Thanks.
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September 11th, 2011
Question:
Okay. Bare with me here. I am engaged to a wonderful man. We are both 21 years old. He has no children.
I have a 3 year old son named Ryan. He’s a very adorable, mischievous little boy *wink* if you know what I mean. lol
My fiance and I met when my son had just turned 2 years old. Up until that point he had never dealt with children or been around children in any way so this has all been a big adjustment for him. He is trying soo hard and I love him for it.
My son knows who his real father is and used to see him, but me and his father are at odds right now due to him being an abusive deadbeat loser, so my fiance is the prominent male role model in his life right now.
In your opinion, what do you think his role should be in my son’s life as far as discipline?
Also, for people who have gone through this before, I don’t want to be pushy about “MAKING” the two of them bond. I know it will take time. Sometimes I just wanna wake up in the morning and have my fiance and my son absolutely in love with each other. It isn’t happening as quickly as I want it to. I know it takes time and it’s only been 11 months. Any advice? Should I expect him to love my son like his own or give them more time to bond?
Also, when we get married and have a kid of our own, how often do the “kids from the other dad” get left out?? I love my son and I don’t even want him to feel on the outside ya know? Should I worry, do these things work out??
Thanks for any help…=)
EDIT: General Custer: Um excuse me I am not PUSHING AWAY the boys natural father… HE was extremely abusive to me and I currently have a restraining order against him and he also broke into my house while my son was in his bed asleep, so don’t tell me I need to see a professional, when clearly I am doing the right thing by my child.
Please don’t judge me without knowing circumstances. His father has been causing me hell for almost a year because he doesn’t like the fact that I wised up and left him for a better man…and I WAS bringing my son to see him for visits 2 or 3 times a week but when he started threatening me and refusing to return my son and breaking into my home I thought I had better get a restraining order…
Thank you to every one for your kind and encouraging words. I just love my little soon-to- be family so much and I don’t ever want anything to go wrong. Thank you for all your advice. =) I appreciate it.
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September 2nd, 2011
Question:
My boyfriend and I have been together a little over 4 years and we have a 3 year old & a 13 month old son and we also just learned that I am 5 weeks pregnant. “Jim” just up and left me a few days ago stating that he feels I am not fair to him when it comes to him trying to discipline my 15 year old daughter.She recently wanted to go move in with her father as the result of their relationship. The final act that caused him to leave was that she left a bowl in the sink and just absolutley went bonkers about it. I felt that he was overreacting about it and told him to leave it and she would clean it when she got home and also that I would have a talk with her. Well that wasn’t enough for him. He is very adamant about her remembering to clean up after herself. He says she disrespects him by not picking up after herself and in his opion she needs to lose something. I, however feel he just sometimes nick pics at the littlest things with her and doesn’t give her recognition for all the help she does with the children as well as her daily chores which includes taking care of our family rabbit and vacuuming the house on a daily basis. Overall she is a very well behaved young lady who has also done well in school. We have tried family counseling and our counselor has asked him if he could just let me handle the parenting with her and the two of us can focus and parent our two children together. She feels as though I have done a fine job raising my daughter so thought that it would be better for all to let me be the one to discipline and correct her behavior. Well that scenario lasted a very short time. Now he feels as though I am brainwashed by this counselor and he has constantly been insulting my parenting skills as a Mother. I am so confused as to whether or not I want to even try to work this out. He is currently looking for his own place while residing with his family, whom do not know of my pregnancy. He was raised in a very abusive family by his Step Father and I feel as though this is why he is the way he is with his parenting. I need some helpful advice……do I just move on or fight to make this work?
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