December 21st, 2011
Will someone please give me some tips for my upcoming road test?
Question:My parents have given me a lot of driving experience, so I’m sure that I’ll be OK. But still, I’d like some tips on the little things, such as checking both ways when pulling into an intersection, where the person giving me the test might demerit me.
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November 27th, 2011
Teens, please read and answer this!!! I really need help!! Parents, are you all like this?
Question:My parents are super strict!! i hate it, I feel like I’m locked in a box and I cant go anywhere. Its sucks being me I just want to die. Ok well I’m 14 years old and a freshman in high school. I’ve never been to the mall or the movies or to a party. I’m the oldest out of 6 (yea, my parents are pretty busy) Ok I was invited to a drill team party (all girls) and my parents wouldn’t let me go. I was invited to my friends quincernera and they wouldnt let me go.In 5th grade we got to go to Camp Grsy spruce, but my parents wouldnt let me go, I was teh only one that couldn’t go. We’re not allowed to go outside (unless to check the mail). I spend my weekends babysitting my sisters.I feel like a loser. Please help? What can I do? Parents, do you act like this with your kids? Advice, please I’m going crazy!!! I’ve started to rebel against them. I’ve already told them how I feel.
BTW I’m not a TOTAL loser I have friends and stuff.
I dont think its financial. my mom is a nurse and my dad owns a cat lot. I just think they dont want me to be normal and have fun.
lol I meant car lot
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November 25th, 2011
Parents- I need your advice please?
Question:First off I apologize in advance if this is really long- I’ll try to keep it as short as possible. And to other thinking I’m a troll- I assure you I’m not. I’m very well known in the teen section, I just don’t want this on my normal TC account. Please don’t be rude- I really don’t think I could handle that. Thank you.
Okay this all started my Junior year of HS. I’ve always been bullied, but it got to the point that I just couldn’t handle it. My “friends” turned their backs on me, & school was fcuking hell. It was that bad. So everyday I would lie to me mom & say I was sick (which wasn’t a full lie, going to school did make me physically ill), I’ve never been the healthiest person, so she believed me. Anyway I kept this up ALL year. I would go sometimes, but I missed more than half the year. We got charged with truancy, but we just had to pay a fine (which I did pay my mom back, so I’m not a complete jack-a**). This year, my would be senior year, I completely dropped out since I’m 18. I tried to do the home-school thing, but it didn’t work out (LONG story), then I signed up to get my GED, but I got really sick & missed almost a month of classes, so I got kicked out.
Now it’s almost July, I’m almost 19 & I have nothing. I’m depressed, & half the time I don’t want to be alive. I love my mom, but I don’t want to be in this fcuking small judgmental bullying town. I have a little over $5000 coming to me soon, from my dad (his not involved, he just throws money at me every year for my birthday). I really want to take that money & move. I can’t stay here anymore, I know to y’all I might be overreacting, but if you knew the hell I’ve been put through here, you would understand. I’ve thought about suicide, but I could NEVER do that to my mom, she means everything to me.
I plan to move, get a small place with roommates, & get my GED/high-school diploma while working. Do you think I could do it? I’m far from dumb & want to continue my education, I just couldn’t stay in HS. I really couldn’t. I’m willing to work my A** off & be dead-broke for a while. I’m not ignorant, I know it’s going to be tough. But I really can’t stay here.
Any advice would be great, thank you. Sorry for the length, just wanted you to have the back-story. And before you say I need therapy, trust me I know. I want to go, & once I move out I will. It’s not like I enjoy feeling this way (far from it).
Thank you Brimstone for your UPS job advice. I’m going to look into that. I do know where I want to move, & I’ve already looked into places to live. I’ve set up a budget & everything. I’ve also looked into GED classes up there.
As for the one of the answers (I apologize, I can’t remember your name). I assure you, I am healthy enough to work. I actually work now- I clean house & walk dogs- not the best, but it is a job. I’m thankful to have one, I live in a tiny town with very little options. I refuse to get on public help, unless I had no other choice. I’m motivated & ready to better myself. I AM smart, & regret I had to drop out. But I really did have no other choice. As for being suicidal- it really is only on certain days, when It just gets to me. I AM going to get help, I would love to go to therapy now, but my town does not have it.
I thank you for your answer though. =)
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November 24th, 2011
My dog…..Seriouse Answers Please!?
Question:I have a 2 year old male (neutered) purebred boxer, who is in good health, and is top notch in obiedence. He has never once challenged my position in the house and has never been aggressive with a single person or child. A few months ago we got a new puppy and every time we scolded him my boxer would jump in a violently attack him. We have stopped him from doing that now. The problem is, yesterday, my husband and I were joking around and wrestling, and suddenly my boxer was in my face, hackles sticking up, teeth showing, the aggressive growling and kept trying to bite my face, while my husband had me pinned in a head lock and halfway under the couch. He barreled his head inbetween my husband to get to my face and today I have a massive black eye from him head butting me. I have lost confidence in this dog, and I don’t know what to do? I’m so mad at him, because its after the fact, I can’t discipline him for it. I would like some advice to prevent this from happening again. thnx
I hold the alpha status in the house, my husband is hardley home and has been in Iraq for the past year, (just got back in OCT). My husband doesn’t play a role in the discipline, because hes hardly ever home.
This dog is not food/toy aggressive, is tolerant with children, playful and is very submissive with me, he’s never challenged my position.
When he tried to attack me, he wasn’t not playing, or trying to protect me, I had to wiggle my arms loose from my husband and cover my face, my husband had to drag him off me, and he said every muscle in his body was hard as a rock, and when I got to my feet, my husband let him go to see if I was alright and he came at me again. Where my husband was able to catch him again, pinned him down, and put him in the crate for the rest of the night.
I am very aware of what an attack looks like, being in the military for 4 years and working with the Military Working dogs on a weekly baisis.
The actions my boxer displayed were aggressive not playful, and certainly not be encourage because of his breed. A boxer is a family dog by nature, not a dog that turns on his family.
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November 17th, 2011
My life is total cr@p at the moment and i feel so depressed about the situation. Need serious advice please?
Question:Hi, well basically i am a 22 year old guy and my main problem is my social life. I have friends, but not as many as i would like. I have always been the “quiet” one, even during my teens i was shy, but now i am 22 i am a lot more talkative and outgoing, but when i’m in groups i still sometimes become quiet, well anyway i feel as though my social life is heading backwards instead of forwards. I mean i used to have a reasonably decent social life a couple years ago, but now it seems as though i am losing contact with friends and i never hear about invites to parties or places. Don’t get me wrong i still have friends that i go out with now and then, but i am the sort of person that loves to be out doing stuff and socialising, but the opportunities just aren’t there to socialise. My weekends consist of sitting home most of the time, going clothes shopping or to the gym, but i rarely see my friends on weekends and i’m afraid to contact old friends in case they think i’m desperate or don’t want to hang out with me. Also i am still living at home with my parents and i never went to university, so i guess i’m stressing out over that as well. I also want to go to university, but i worry about my age and also whether i will do well in university because i struggle at maths. I know uni would be a great place to meet people and i hear good stories from people who have been or are there now, and it sounds the perfect place for me at this stressful, depressing time in my life. I just don’t know what to do, so some helpful advice would be great, thanks.
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November 13th, 2011
I need help, I am in a weird situation? (drug related) please some advice or opinions.?
Question:Three very important people in my life smoke marijuana. I have tried to make them stop i talk to them but they wont seem to change their minds. They think of pot as a normal cool thing to do. We are still teens. Two of them are 15 and the other one is 16. I don’t know if im over reacting and weed is not so bad after all. They fool their parents by making them believe they don’t do drugs. I am scared that they might end up doing harder drugs or even get hurt. I am going to feel extreamly guilty if i don’t put an end to this.I am also afraid to lose their friendship. What do i do? Is marijuana really not that bad? Ahh! Advice or opinions please?
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November 12th, 2011
Date advice from the teen girls please?
Question:Well this weekend I have a date with a girl I REALLY REALLY REALLY like (sorry) but anywho, we are just going to her house and watching a movie. Of course im meeting her parents and I am hoping everything goes fine. The thing is we are waiting til we see eachother in person to decide if we wanna date as bf/gf. Cause we met through a friend and have talked on the phone and myspace. I asked her if she would have a prob if I held her hand during the movie and she said she would not. So my question is would it be out of my place to kiss her on the cheek during the movie? Just like a random quick peck on the cheek when her folks arnt in the room. Or i was thinking I would put my arm around her so we may cuddle a little bit.. but what do you think? THANKS LOTS!
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November 6th, 2011
Can I have some singing tips, please?
Question:I need some singing tips. I’ve been singing for awhile, actually since I could talk, and I need some tips.
My parents won’t let me take lessons, so can you guys just add tips except for taking lessons.
Like breathing and stuff. I know how to sing out of my diaphram and stuff, but I won’t to improve.
THANKS!
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November 5th, 2011
Hey, so this is pretty important and i need some advice… please read and help me out.?
Question:so I’m 14, I’m an artist, and I hate my parents. I hate everything about them, everything they stand for and I just want out. All I ever wanted to do in life was just to be on stage. To audition to sing to be around art… I just someone to work me, as hard as I can, because I have so much potental and all I want to do is just work. I mean how many teens do you hear that from? I live in the middle of no where. I’ve raised myself, I spend every wakeing minute I’m not at school at this little theater a half hour away. I’ve also been contacting every theater in my city, and every agency in the state, and I’m.. not to sound conseeded, but I’m so talented. I just wish I was somewhere else, with someone to not take care of me, but my career and just to give me oppertunitys. But I’m starting to understand, that will never happen. Is there anyway for me to be happy? Does anyone have any advice for me?
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