April 9th, 2011
Question:
I meet a beautiful single mom of 2 kids I have 2 of my own as I am a single parent myself She has a 5 month old and a 4y/o and I have 4y/o twins, she is a very sweet person and seems like a good mother to her kids I would like to help her financially because I do understand that dippers and milk can be very expensive. My question is if….Is it possible to become a happy family or am I buying love and time from her? What advice can you give?
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February 26th, 2011
Question:
I’m a single mother whom has been unemployed for a year. I’m 23 yrs old and I still have not gotten to go to a college yet.Luckily, I’ve been street smart to put food on th table and a roof over our heads. Yet, I’m desperate tohave a chance in this world and would like to use my mind. How can get help to achieve not just goals but to work and study at the same time plus get gov’t help?
21 minutes ago – 3 days left to answer.
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Father is unknown
I”ve even go so far as to act obscene so I could get a child support services worker to help…nothing happened. No medicaid, wic,welfare,and well I haven’t gone to school. So I escort to make income because my parents were low income as well especially after dealing with my older sis whom has schitoprhenia. Its easier for me to take care of my child out of my folks home cause he gains better respect of me as his parent. I just would like an opportunity.
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February 8th, 2011
Question:
Not for a teens interest, adults please respond….
Doesn’t matter what the issue, even when I know I am in the right and it is crystal clear to the world at large, my so called boyfriend will always play devils advocate and stand up for the other person/situation if an issue arises.
There’s a woman in the neighborhood that is notorious for her selfish ways. (“all about her” type). I pick up her children for school each morning (I also bring my own) . I went today and waited at there house for the kids to come out like I have done every day of the year (snow, rain, etc) and finally figured out that they weren’t even there. She had decided to drive them today I guess. That’s her option of course– but not so much as a phonecall to me to let me know. So I passed her in the school parking lot and on our own side street in our vehicles and I slowed down to talk to her, and she drove fast right on by. It was intentional.
So I told my bf about this, who always says she’s a witch (unless of course it’s me complaining) So I tell him and he says “well maybe she wanted to teach you a lesson that if you say you will pick her kids up at 8:00 than she means 8 sharp.” I said “I’m doing her a FAVOR by picking up her kids each day, no charge, just a neighborly good thing to do. The kids have never been late, always greeted warmly and dropped off with a smile. Why would she feel she had the right or need to “teach me a lesson?”.
My bf then started on his long stupid rampage about “understanding the other person”… I just blew up at him saying you don’t even understand ME nevermind HER! What the f–
For ONCE I’d like him to just stand by me on ANYTHING and not always challenge me.
I am from a very loyal family. Brought up to have my have friends family back. Of course,We speak to eachother honestly but in the end we stand together. I don’t feel this security from my bf. I don’t expect my bf to do anything about the mother or get involved but in the privacy of my own kitchen I’d like some understanding.
He consistantly puts me on the stand for cross examination. I want an emotionally loyal man. Not one that will agree with me ALL the time, but one that will at least be supportive when I am just looking for some encouragement or comfort or to feel a little protected…. One that will not blame me for things he clearly KNOWS are not my fault. I think it’s a passive aggressive way of putting me down. I think he is undermining who I am by disagreeing and belittling and turning around any situation that I have a complaint on. What do you think?
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January 31st, 2011
Question:
I am a single Mom in my mid 20′s….I am having a difficult time trying to date! I am the custodial parent of my son and only have every other wknd free as well as Wed nites for 3 hours. I dont want to introduce my son to a guy until I see myself having a future with that person. But I have the problem with guys not respecting my issue with only seeing me every other wknd. I also never ever get a sitter when I have my son, for any occasion! I am a very good Mother in that way. I do own my own house but dont have the time or patience for this! Help! How do I fit dating in and to have the guy be ok with just seeing me every 2 wks?
Edit: I didnt say that getting a sitter was a bad thing, but I have every other wknd free and I also work full time so my wknds with my son are not going to be spent going out! For those of you who took that wrong! READ IT AGAIN!
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January 25th, 2011
Question:
Im a single father of a Beautiful 6 month old baby boy, Me and his mother aren`t together anymore and to be 100% honest with you i really wish we were together but she lives with her parents and i strongly believe they don’t like me to much, we tried to get back together a few times but we would break up out of the blue and then get back together.
but life must and will go on either way, my thing is this, i want to be the # 1 dad and this is my first child so im some what scared of course being a single father for the very first time.
what advice would you give a single father, if your a female and you are reading this.
what is ONE thing you wish the father of your child would do more of, thats if you two aren`t together anymore or know some one for example.
some people would say, why do you care what the mother think of you but in all honestly, i want my child mother to say to people, wow he is an awesome father, remember im tring to gain the reward the # 1 dad.
in this day, there are alot of dead beat dad`s in this world.
i informed my ex i am going to get my son`s pictures done at Sears next week and invited her to come along and she said she would and would get him some new clothes/outfit.
mainly just because we arent together anymore doesnt mean we cant get along right and do whats right for change for our son ?
am i right or wrong ?
i could have said nothing and got his pictures done by myself but why be rude or a prick when im going to know his mother for the next 18 years atlease.
thank you for your answers.
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January 13th, 2011
Question:
Ok, um, how to start? Well,
earlier tonight I overheard my parents doing it in their bedroom across th hall from my room. It happened at 12:15 at night, while my brother and I were washing up for bed. Late, I know, but we had just finished watching a movie as a family and I figured they could hear the tap running and know I wasn’t asleep. Maybe they thought I couldn’t hear them? I don’t know.
Anyway, this isn’t the first time it’s happened. It’s gotten to the point where I can’t get to sleep easily unless they are separated. I’m seriously freaked out. I’ve tried listening to my iPod and all that, but my fear won’t go away. Am I a freak? Should I talk to my mom about this? What should I say?
Thanks for you respectful and thoughtful comments. I do love my parents, but this is started to really get into my psyche.
—Scared Sleepless
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January 11th, 2011
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January 8th, 2011
Question:
I am a single mom of a 1st grade boy. His father and I divorced when he was a year old and have had quite a tumultouse relationship since. Tried to repair it several times but to no evail. My son has spent a little more time with me but spends quite a bit of time with his father as well. I have over compensated (as Im sure most of us do) in the parenting department for my son since day 1 of the seperation, I work only the hours that he is in school so Im able to be there before and after for him. I have lived consistantly in the same home (just him and I) for 6 years and recently moved us into a larger more suitable one, that he loves. However, in the last year or so he has slowly been clinging to dad more and more. Tonight I went to pick him up from my ex husbands to help him out in a jam and when my son saw me he rudely said “What are you doing here?” So I just gave him a hug and a kiss and left. I know Im the adult here but I am crushed. Any advice?
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January 5th, 2011
Question:
i have been divorced from my abusive and irresponsible ex-husband for 8 months now and have adjusted to being the only provider and parent of my two great girls. i have graduated college and started my new career, decorated my new apartment and had a wonderful makeover. i’m doing well, except…
i am now ready to date again. i have no clue as to how to go about meeting men to date, or telling men gently that i have two children that mean the world to me. i don’t want to date a man who has children, just a personal preference i have. is it worth looking for a decent guy who is willing to date a single mom? or will i be wasting my time? any advice to give me?
a couple of people have put me down because i would rather date a man with no children. i choose that because i want to date casually for the time being, and if a man has kids that i become attached to, it will make it that much harder to stop seeing him. it’s one of those variables i would rather do without. but if a good guy comes along and has children, i am not going to opposed to dating him. my ideal situation is to date a childless man casually as to ease myself back into the dating pool. but who knows? my dream guy may have 10 kids, and i have no problem with that. but to date casually, i would rather a man with no children.
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January 3rd, 2011
Question:
I need advice on how to tell my parents that i am atleast 80% sure that i am Bi and i need to find a way to tell my parent. Help please
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