April 20th, 2011
Question:
I don’t know what my deal has been lately. I am in this sort of slump and cant seem to perk up or shake it. I find myself just kind of closing off from everyone too! I am a stay at home mom and it feels like I am at home non stop and even when I get out its all too routine, same places, scenery and dragging a whiney toddler with me.
We are in between making the big life decision of moving or having to stay in our home. I have been depressed in the home we live for a long time now as it was built by my husband and his brother and was never intended for a family. My husband and I met when they were finalizing the home and we fell in love very quickly. The tension resulting from my brother in law treating me like I ruined his beautiful home and life with his brother, because I got pregnant and my husband proposed, we got married, and his brother couldn’t afford the house which meant I moved in, he moved out. Well.. That’s all another story in itself but I have associated this house with negativity since it was that way from day one. The main problem is the house is all wrong for our family, its too small, and there is no real good safe place for our daughter to play outside, not to mention it has A LOT of problems that we cannot afford to fix becasue we live on one income.
We live in the middle of nowhere on a mountain in the middle of the woods. I am here (in this damn house) day in and day out with my 18 month old daughter. I feel like I have NOBODY to talk to and I am going stir crazy. We may be moving but we also may have to stay for another year, its all coming down to the bank, and selling this home, etc. Its just a long drawn out overwhelming situation and I am fed up with not knowing whether we are going or staying and this house is making me reach boiling point. The thought of being here another year makes me really, well, I dont even know how to word it. I honestly feel like trapped in this house! My husband understands and is doing what he can and its supportive its just out of his hands what happens.
As far as my 18 month old daughter goes, I cant keep her busy. She is making me nuts, getting into EVERYTHING, throwing tantrums, I NEVER have a break from her. NEVER. And its getting really tough. I have broken down crying several times and I feel as though I am slipping into a depression. I have basically always been the most positive, strong person and lately just feel like, blah! I am always here ALONE with just my kid, and NOBODY to talk to or have an adult conversation with and I feel when I call someone like my mom, she is too busy or doesn’t want to talk, and here I am still lonely. I am the only one of my sisters to have a child, and I have nobody that can really relate to me to talk to who has a baby. My daughter is really getting on my nerves and I have never felt like that till now. I manage fairly well day in and out but she doesn’t want to listen and I don’t know how to discipline her. I feel extrememly frustrated as a mom.
I guess I just need to know if other moms feel like all they do is talk baby language all day and have NO time for themselves at all and how you manage to not let it overwhelm you or when it does overwhelm you what do you do?? I am thankful for my wonderful family and i know that I am blessed but I dont know, could be hormones, but whatever it is, i dont know. 
I do have my mother in law and my mother all though they both are so busy all the time, they rarely offer to watch her and I feel bad asking. So- I am going to sign her up for a stay and play program in April is when they begin registration but its like a mothers morning out from 8AM till noon and I think I may sign up for one or two days a week so I can have that regular break.
My husband is in school full time and he works full time he is usually gone 14 hours a day!
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February 27th, 2011
Question:
Alright so Ive never really had a girlfriend before…well I had one. Didnt last that long though…
Ever since then ive been single (four years). Ever since then from time to time I would wonder why im single and how come I havent been with at least one person ever since. First I thought it was because of my looks…but im really not that bad looking. Then I thought it was because I wasnt on my own yet, still living at my parents. Moved out…and that didnt really change much. (I didnt move out to get girls lol other reasons too). Now Im starting to feel like after not having a girlfriend really for my entire life, that I guess I wont really meet anyone and Im ok with just being single. But I see so many of my friends with people and Im starting to think theres something wrong with me…lol. I guess I dont really care anymore about having a girlfriend seeing as Im ok on my own. I can handle all matters in my life by myself…..
Well my question is this…is it socially normal to be like this? Have I just been without for so long that I just emotionally adapted to not need anyone? Im kind of scared by this…
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January 25th, 2011
Question:
Well i think they believe we broke up…which is what they want…i guess it is because we are only 14…goin 15 in a month…and they want us to focus on school and spare us pain or watever..
Well i already betrayed them when i went on adate with him…i lost my phone and everything…they said they want me to be honest with them…so should i just tell them we are still together? Somebody ratted us out last year so i got in more trouble…i do not now who did it…
I know they will be upset but i will be telling them the truth..isnt this whats best? Adding to this..if they think we broke up and they figure out we r together later..they may think i lied again…so i shud do thi right?
2.- how can i prove to them i can handle this and we care for each other? Note: my bf is concerned wih their disapproval..he is so sweet
3.-should i find a way to make eveyone happy? Bc if i go wit my parents choice..they will be happy but my bf and i will be sad. If i stay with him..my parents and i will both b hurt. I care for my family more..but i cannot stand the fact of choosing who i would like to see happy or choose who i would rather hurt ykno?
U guys dnt hav to answer everything and any advice you have wud b so helpful..thanks
Notes
We are both honors students with straigt a’s
We are goin to b sophmores
We are both filipino (dnt kno if that helps)
We rlly do both care for each other and are trying hard to get my parebts consent. Tho most parents see teen boys as liars..mine is diff and its easy to see..in many ways..
Thanks so much
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November 4th, 2010
Question:
Ok, I am dating a wonderful woman with a very “hard to handle” 4 y/o son. He’s been known to throw crazy fits, smash things, etc. Well, she lives with her mother who is to say the least, a bit of a dominating, and temper filled woman. This woman has a habit of telling this kid that he is a “bad child” or basically screaming at the top of her lungs like a lunatic anytime he isnt perfect. Then yesterday the little boy threw a tantrum and smashed one of her knick knacks. Well the grandmother went upstairs in his room and ( very much in a psychotic way) began screaming every curse word in the book and took a knife to every single stuffed animal the kid has. Ok I have absolutely no problem with disciplining a child, but to me this seemed a bit nuts and utterly pointless. I dont have any kids, so honestly I dont know everything, but does this kind of reaction seem healthy to you? My gf really cant live on her own financially, and well she is really intimidated by her mother. Any opinions?
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November 3rd, 2010
Question:
My 4 1/2 year old daughter fractured her shoulder. She’s in a splint type cast and a sling for the next six weeks. Any parents out there that have tips on making this go a little more smooth? She hates the cast, obviously. It’s only the first day, but any advice or tricks for making this seem a little better would be appreciated. She is already getting the royal princess treatment from everyone in the family!
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September 28th, 2010
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September 17th, 2010
Question:
Hi, I’m Lois Griffin and my son Stewie has been giving me hints that he’s gay. I’m basically a single parent if you want to count my husband Peter mental illness. Do you know he bought a helicopter and a blimp? Anyway I want to confront Stewie and let him know that it’s okay to be homosexual. Any advice? Thank you for your time.
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August 17th, 2010
Question:
What helped you most as a tween and teenager with respect to the rejection you inevitably felt from your father’s absence?
10 points to the best advice that’ll help my son.
Many thanks 
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August 17th, 2010
Question:
My husband and I don’t agree on what to do with our almost 17 year old son. He’s a teen dad of a 4 month old but still very much acting like a kid. He also isn’t doing well in high school and we are looking into alternatives. A big problem is that its causing strife between my husband and I. My husband wants to get him his GED and sign him into the military by the end of the summer (which you can do as long a they are 17). I’m trying to work with my son as much as I can and trying to keep peace with my husband. My son is constantly pushing and wants to act like a man when it suits his purpose and like a kid other times. It sounds crazy but I don’t know what to do. Should I keep trying to work with my teen or side with my husband? Its tough and I’m really upset about the whole thing. Neither of them are thinking about me in the middle it seems like.
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August 12th, 2010
Question:
We have been married for two and a half yrs and he’s a good guy. He just doesn’t seem to want to be involved in my boys’ lives (he’s step-dad). They are 9 and 10 and see their real father 2X monthly but real father is not involved outside of that. He comes to their school plays etc. unwillingly and complains when asked to do simple things like watch the meteor shower with us. But, as seems to be with most men, is overly involved with the “discipline.” They rarely if ever receive praise only complaints. He seems to have gotten progessively worse. I love my husband dearly and don’t know what to do. I’m not considering leaving or anything like that, I would just like advice.
As I mentioned earlier, I am not leaving him. He has taken great care of us and there are some days that he is excellent with the boys. My boys are far from neglected. My husband loves them and they have never doubted that. It is difficult to like other peoples children. That’s why most of us are NOT teachers
I just wanted advice on how to get him to be more involved. I don’t appreciate being attacked. I’ve not been nominatded for mother of the year by any means but I love my children and have gone to the ends of the world to protect them.
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