How can you get by on little sleep for long periods of time? (Especially want tips from parents of toddlers.)?
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What do I do when I’m living with little moral support?
Question:I won’t go into detail, but here’s my deal. Basically I’m now a junior. I have only one AP class (which is AP chemistry), the rest of my 6 classes are just academic (or regular) classes. In my AP I’m making straight C’s and my other classes I’m making pretty much straight B’s. In 9th grade, my grades were mostly B’s. In 10th grade, well, 1st semester was horrible cuz I was in Marching band (but sadly I was a shadow – meaning I never marched with the band, I just carried the equipment) anyway it was time consuming and also I was in 3 pre-ap classes (english, chemistry, & algebra 2), I failed horribly in those classes, my other classes were straght B’s. In 2nd semester in 10th well I ended up being dropping out of band and my pre-ap’s, and made straight B’s in 2nd semester.I’m in art, martial arts, and community service. So now that is basically my academic story.
No heres my personal story, my dad is retired, is a diabetic patient, sometimes has anger issues, is kinda blind in one eye from a horrible eye operation from way back. He used to be a chemisty, even taught chemistry at Rice University (a semi-ivy league in TX) My mom is a house-wife, she’s not the educatating. My sister, well I’d like to think of her as Marie Antionette – a big spender of money, my dad’s retired money.
Anyways I don’t think I did well on my PSAT, which cud have helped my family from worrying about giving me money for college and all.
My house is very noisy and loud is about all I can say, without much details.
My dad knows my grades. Time to time he’ll give me lectures and sometimes even hit me for not doing well in school. Both my parents compare me to other people’s kids my age. I honestly don’t have “real” friends in school whom I cud talk to. My one best guy friend whom i met on the internet, isn’t that helpful morally speaking, he’s a very good person, but doesnt understand how bad my situation is, keeps saying its gonna be ok, without talking my out of it and which is not the moral support I was really looking for.
I wanna go to a good college. I wanna study well. I wanna be able to concentrate. I wanna get into to med school someday.
High school for me is just hard. I one time did spend a year in an all girls boarding school in 7th grade. I was the top of the class, cuz I learned to have better discipline, i wasn’t treated like a child like I am here with my family.
Anyways, what hopes are there for me, if I’m living like this with little moral support? I know high school isnt the end of the world, but right now, thats how it feels like – probably cuz my parents keep telling me that i’m ruining my future and that I’ll be dead one of these days. I certainly don’t want to go to community college, but honestly I don’t know how hard it is to transfer from an ok college for freshmen year to a better college (if not Ivy-league)? I know very little about scholarships, I’m not sure how they’re done. Anyways, whats the best advice you cud offer that wud help me out alot? Plz don’t answer if u don’t know.
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I am not sure what to do anymore, fighting with my mom about little brother?
Question:My little brother and I are 13.5 years apart. It is just us two, my parents had a hard time conceiving after me so my little brother was a bit of a surprise. I am 21 and he is 8. Even though we have a huge age gap we fight. I know it sounds ridiculous, but my brother is a handful. He does not listen and is very disrespectful towards me. He will hit and call me names and I never see my parents do anything to back me up. I do not discipline him because he is not my child. They think because I am the adult I should know how to handle the situation, without losing my cool. I understand that, but at the same time, shouldn’t my parents teach my little brother to respect me?
I am 35 weeks pregnant with my second child and I am married, we own our own home so I have my own life and family. I do not feel like it is my responsibility to make sure my brother respects me.
Any advice?
Emmmy….you are 14 and obviously have no idea what you are talking about!
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is my parenting a little off the hook?
Question:i have 5 kids i spank them when they do bad (except for the infant who is 3 weeks old of course) im a biologist but 15 years ago i was a con(prisoner) im hardcore im not a soft-type dad when the baby cries i pick him up for a minute then put him down if my 13 yr old has a problem with whatever i relate to him my past bad days….if my 3 yr old daughter wants her dad i tell her to go to your mom your brother’s watching tv with me when the baby cries and i realize he ****ed his diaper i dont say aww look at my baby you made a doo-doo i say honey the baby pooped! and when im off the mood i practically drink lots of wine and when my kids approach i say get ,outta here im drinking after that i sleep in the bed and my wife looks at me with tear-brimmed eyes and i say -you got me into this then i fall asleep other times im a good dad i pick the baby up and talk to him about motorcycles or i would pick the clothes for my kids thats all the good i do would you recommend tips for parenting?
my kids only know the bad in me but i sometimes go to the park and tlak to them about their school,life,etc.
we go to the park once a month though and basically i provide money for the family because my wife had a leave at being a doctor for a year :O( i know i have to treat them right but i dont know how get me some tips will ya?
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Mommy, I’m Hungry!: Good Eating for Little Ones from Pregnancy to Age 5
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Discussing all areas of feeding childrenfrom deciding between bottle or breast feeding to identifying food allergiesthis sourcebook incorporates expert advice and first-hand experiences on how to raise healthy kids. Guidelines for addressing children who won’t eat, fighting obesity and childhood diabetes, and budgeting properly are applied to all agesfrom prenatal care to toddlers and preschoolers. A section with recipes for healthy snacks and meals that children can prepare with their parents is also included…. More >>
Mommy, I’m Hungry!: Good Eating for Little Ones from Pregnancy to Age 5
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Little SISTERS Are “Tramps” Now – Advice Please?
Question:I am the oldest. I have 2 younger sisters (21yrs old & 18yrs old) We grew up in a Christian household where our parents (mainly dad) taught us right from wrong. We did not drink, smoke, curse, or have multiple sex partners. (no pre-marital sex). We were allowed to hang out with friends & go to parties & stuff as long as a responsible parent was there. Also my dad liked to meet our friend’s parents so that he could know who he was sending his kids to. (which I think is what any good parent would do; especially with all the perverts out there)
Anywho, my mother grew up in an overly strict household because her father (my grandpa) was a pastor & wanted to protect his image/reputation around town & in other countries. He was a HUGE & well know/respected person in the ministry so he wanted to make sure his kids did not make him look bad. Because of this he went WAY over board & beat the living crap out of them. He was controlling & never let them do anything except go to church. As a result my mother (she was never beaten but saw her siblings being abused) got screwed up. When it came to parenting she did not believe in any form of disipline or boundaries. She is kind of like the ‘Kardasian’ mother. My mom is in La La Land & wants to be our best friends instead of a parent. Because of this my dad got stressed out & could not raise us with a spouse who would always want to do the opposite of what he believed in…………..they are getting a divorce.
Anyway my two sisters got involved with the wrong friends. Even though my dad disagreed because he knew my sister was a followerer …my mom still paid to let my sister go to college in a really bad neighboorhood. As a result my sister started doing things she was not raised to do & sleeping with random dudes including ones who were in a relationship. Now my younger sister is following her footsteps. My younger sister knows NOTHING about life. Simple things that an intelligent 18 yr old should know, she has no clue. All she literally does is talk to her slutty friends 24/7 & dress like a skank at the club to pick up guys. (dont tell me that all teens act this way because I never did…& not everyone acts like that) Basically both of them are headed down to a path of distruction and they wont listen to me because my mom bashed me & told them that I am brainwashed. =/
I am thinking of writing a letter to both my sisters & my warped minded ‘Kardasian like’ mother…telling them how I feel & that I will no longer be keeping contact until they grow up (sisters) & start acting like decent young ladies.
Thoughts??
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Life’s Little Treasure Book on Parenting
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Compiled from both volumes of Life’s Little Instruction Book and other books by Jack Brown, this small hardcover volume is the perfect gift for both new and veteran parents, and can be given in the place of a traditional greeting card…. More >>
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I’m a little confused by this.?
Question:I was thinking that the “Adolescent” subcategory, under the “Pregnancy and Parenting” category would be about parenting pre-teen and teenagers. I’m a little confused why there are so many off topic questions in this category. I don’t see this a place for teens to ask each other questions, but rather, a place for parents of teens to come and get advice. A lot of the questions in here would be more suitable in other categories. For example, If you want to know if you should break up with you boyfriends, there’s a “Friendships and Relationships” category. This not the place for that. I’m not even sure this is a question, but whatever.
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Can I Have a Little Advice?
Question:See..A few weeks before school ended i was walking home and i got followed and mugged by a couple of upperclassmen who go to my high school.(i was a freshmen)since then it seems i’ve been a little traumatized by it, it’s getting in the way of my social life. too afraid to go to the mall, and stuff :\….can’t really talk about it with anyone..mother is a single parent since i was age 2 and my sister is in college, (assuming that she’d care), adn what guy talks to his buds about this kinda stuff???
well..yea…i’m also afraid the effect may be permanent
and might get in the way me getting and holding my 1st job i’m planning to get this upcoming summer, since my mother doesn’t drive
and i’m too young to have a permit yet =.= (yes i really want to get a license, i think it would help a lot)
i’ll take any advice seeing as how the school year starts again tomorrow
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little help advice for teen? please? :(?
Question:Basically im 14, i’ve loved this girl for the past year since i first saw her. Thing is, i haven’t really loved that many people before anyway..not like this. I’ve never actually had a gf :/ im not really ugly, just not the most popular person in my school due to the fact i get some retarded people following me all the time. But back to the point, since i’ve loved this girl for over a year now i’ve been really upset..you could say depressed if you like. Shortly after i started becoming friends with her she got with this guy who has now left school and is 17 (shes 14). I know this guy and he’s really nasty to me; starts arguing with me all the time and he said to me one time; ‘Why are you getting all pissy? Is it because i have her and you don’t?’
He’s always been really nasty to HER as well, hits her, has a go at her all the time etc putting her in tears alot of the time.
They recently broke up and shes been crying pretty much constantly but they both still love each other so much. I think they are getting back together as well. Oh did i mention, he has a go at her for hugging people like me who are her friends and he goes and kisses other girls.
I’m one of her best friends and she knows i love her alot. But it’s wierd because i love her SO much. She’s the only person that means anything to me in the world, not even my parents care as much as she does and to be honest, shes my only TRUE friend. I always think about her, even when i thinking about something else..it’s like shes at the back of my mind constantly like something is in the corner of your eye but you cannot quite see it. I honestly think if she didn’t love him she would get with me and that would make me SO happy. My so called mates i do have say i’ve been really depressed the last year but i don’t tell them why or anything because they’ll just tell everyone..hence the reason they’re not my ‘true friends’.
Everything else in my life just seems to go so bad. I don’t know what to do anymore. I’m starting to have a few ‘downs’ with her now rather than just ‘ups’. It’s really getting on my nerves and i’ve been crying every night for the last year since i met her basically. I’ve had all sorts of thoughts going through my mind (yes, including death but i couldn’t kill myself so don’t worry, i just think ‘oh i might as well be dead.’ or ‘Just kill me please’ ya’ know.
I don’t know what to do. Little advice, anyone make me feel better? I’ve tried to get over her but i just CAN’T. :’( Thank you for reading all this, i don’t expect you to care because nobody else in my life does anyway. I’m just starting to cry now so, i’ll finish my question here.
If anyone wants to talk to me via e mail or msn then just say so at the bottom of your reply and i’ll edit my question and give you it or just give me yours. Thanks 
You know, nearly all of you have helped and had brilliant answers. Some have the same opinion on what i think i should do, some i have already done but this time round i won’t be able to chose a best answer, it’s not fair. You’ve all helped and i thank you so much. I’ll let this question go to the voting but thank you ALL. :/
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