November 21st, 2011
Question:
my parents want to move there!!
are the high schools good in north las vegas?
what are the graduation requirements and it is hard or easy or in the middle?
what is there for teens like of age 18 to do there?
is it fun? what are the people like?
i really need some good advice and information! thank you!
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November 15th, 2011
Question:
I really need someone to vent to. Honestly it’s nothing big like suicidal or divorced parents, just the stress of being a teen, plus I’m terrifed for highschool and everything is building which makes it worse.
I dont want a hotline phone number, just more of someone I can talk to online… help. 
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November 12th, 2011
Question:
I REALLY need help !
Please give me any tips you have or any ways you think might work !
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November 10th, 2011
Question:
I’m in my mid-teens and have been a lesbian for as long as I can remember. Starting about as early as 5 I have always had a special love for girls. I like guys, but as friends; I don’t see them the same way as I do girls. I’ve wrapped my head around the fact and that I am a lesbian, the only thing that’s holding me back from coming out is my family. I don’t want to let them down by not having biological children and not getting married to a man one day. Certain members of my family are unaccepting of gays and it really hurts to listen to their opinions on gays, because I know I’m going to have to tell them one day that I am a lesbian (even though with the lack of confidence I have about it now I’ll probably be at least 25 before I have the guts to tell them). I’ve been trying to force myself to be straight because I feel like I’ll let my family down if they know I’m not. I don’t want to be disowned or put down because of my sexuality. I’ve always wanted to get married and have kids, just to a girl and either adopt or do artificial insemination. I know I sound like I’m freaking out, but I just don’t want to be a screw-up or a let down to my family. I mean, it’s not like my parents won’t have a chance to be grandparents because I have 3 other siblings…but something in me is making me sad and disappointed on my parent’s behalf… if that makes any sense at all. No one, from my knowledge, is gay in my family so the news will spread FAST if I come out and I don’t want a whole bunch of questions shot at me.
So basically what I’m saying is, is there some sort of way for me to make myself straight, or if I can’t (I have tried so hard, I’m still trying to this day for the above reasons) how can I fully accept and be proud of the fact that a lesbian is who I am? It’s hard because I just don’t feel normal. It makes me really sad. Please don’t be rude anyone. I just really need some advice.
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October 29th, 2011
Question:
Im moving into my first home from my parents house so I will be buying everything. I would like to get some tips on extra expences I might have. Also any tips that might save me money and what should I buy before I move in and what should I buy after. Also what can I save money on.
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October 1st, 2011
Question:
Let me tell you about my situation. I am a newly married man. Between my wife and me, we have three children. Her 9 y.o. child (my stepson), my son, and a baby boy that is ours together as a married couple. So your basic Yours, Mine and Ours situation. The problem is with my stepson. God forgive me for this, but I can’t stand the kid. I mean I really really wish I could afford the tuition to send him to military school. Let me give you some examples of a typical day in our house. First, I am told multiple times a day, every day just how stupid, dumb, idiotic ( you name it) I am. All of these insults when I confront him are of course excused with a dismissive wave of his hand and a condescending laugh as he tells me he was just kidding, almost annoyed that I would not appreciate humor at my expense. He refuses to listen to any advice or teachings I give him, let alone learn from them, often dismissing me in the same cavalier way I described before. What I am describing is but a small sample of daily torment from this little brat. I am so sorry to be like this, but I hardly get help from his mother. In her defense, however, I will say that I thing she tries, but I think that she has tried to assuage her feelings of guilt over being divorced from his father by having a laissez-faire approach to his discipline. I believe that the reason he hates or resents me is because he is very close to his father and I believe that he had hoped his mom and dad would get back together and they would once again be a happy complete family, but when I married his mom, that idea was crushed. What say you all about my ramblings.
I want to share one thing that happened today. Once in a great while we are civil to each other and those times are quite memorable. Well today, I was asking him what he thinks when his mom or I have to sit down and talk to him about his behavior. He said that he did not like it. However, he didn’t not like it because it made him fell ashamed. He did not like it because he thought it was boring. I then asked him what he had learned or remembered and he said nothing. I left the room slack-jawed at such brazen insolence.
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September 18th, 2011
Question:
I’ve been married for 12 years – I had one daughter (16 year old) previous and we’ve had 2 daughters together in this marriage. My husband has always picked and argued with my 16 year old daughter. He harps on her for every little thing, he says that I never discipline her (which I do), and whenever I do have to get on her for something, he “roots” me on! He will take every opportunity to cut her down and rip her apart. She is disrespectful to him. After 12 years of dealing with his constant badgering, she now resents him and I dare say, hate him. She will tell him now when he is being inappropriate to me, her or her two younger sisters. He completely flies off the handle and a big huge freakin’ fight ensues. I tell him he doesn’t give me a chance to discipline her, because HIS responses are so wrong and over the top that I have to make up for his verbal abuse. My daughter is a good teenager, she doesn’t ever break curfew, she is always on the High Honor roll and she helps around the house whenever I ask. She truly is a good kid. But he doesn’t see it. He is the adult, for pete’s sake, he shouldn’t act like a 13 year old. But they fight over stupid things and I’m pretty sure I’m real close to going crazy!!! I can’t just up and leave — this is my home, and I have two other children here that I refuse to leave behind. Counseling isn’t an option, we’ve tried it about 4 times before. As soon as the therapist/counseling starts getting to the root of the issues and starts telling my husband ways to handle himself differently, my husband refuses to go back. I need help…any advice out there???
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September 3rd, 2011
Question:
Background: My husband and I have been married for a little over 2 years. I have 2 daughters ( 17 and12) by a previous marriage and so does he (16 and 10). Just recently my daughters and I had a falling out and they went to live with their Grandparents (my parents). They decided that as long as I am married to my husband they want nothing to do with me. He has always been wonderful to them and treated them better than his own children- in my opinion. But they were not used to sharing my attention with anyone and decided they weren’t going to anymore. I went through 4 months of complete hell and even ended up in a psychiatric treatment center for depression and suicidal thoughts. My entire family has disowned me because they say I chose my husband over my children. They forget that he moved out so that the kids would come home and they refused stating it took too long for him to leave- 3 days. I have had no contact with my own children now for 6 months and I still feel like I am dying inside. Oh and my 17yr got pregnant while living with her Grands.
Problem: My 2 step daughters are with us only every other weekend. I get along great with the 16yr. We have great conversations, she calls me throughout the week to ask for help with homework, see how I am, etc. She has had her share of issues/trouble in the past but I see her trying really hard to make a change. Now the 10yr is another story. She is not a bad kid but she is not the “perfect” child everyone makes her out to be. Well I shouldn’t say everyone- mainly my husbands parents. I am so sick of hearing how perfect she is and if she does anything wrong excuses are always made. She has been told by them, in front of myself and my husband, that she can do anything she wants at their house and we are not allowed to stop her or discipline her. This includes: eating with her hands, not cleaning up after herself, and back talking her father. She spends a lot of time during the week with her Grands as they babysit for her when mom is away at work or school. They really are the biggest influence in her life. Mom has told us that it is causing problems at her house- daughter is throwing fits when she doesn’t get her way and is even hitting mom. Talked to Grands- they say mom is lying to get her in trouble. She has started to ignore me when I tell her to do something- like put on your seat belt- or ignores me until her dad yells at her to do whatever it is. I am really beginning to resent her and I don”t want to be around her. I dread the weekends that she is at our house. I know one reason is because my kids aren’t there- and I am working on that with my counselor. But the other is that I feel like she thinks she is perfect and can do no wrong because she has been told that so much. I feel horrible, but i really don’t like her and it makes me cringe when she hugs or touches me. I just get aggravated at the sight of her. And I know it is really the Grands that I am angry with not her.
Question: Any good advice on how to get past these feelings? I want to feel for her the same as I do for the 16yr. Please don’t crucify me on here because I was honest. I am just looking for help to get past this.
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August 4th, 2011
Question:
According to my parents, I’m very different from all other teens.
I am a lazy freak who wakes up very late at 10:00am on weekends unlike all other teens who wake up bright and early to make breakfast for the family
I sometimes help my parents with cooking when I’m not busy (last year of high school, so lots of work/pressure), and always do m chores of washing the dishes, cleaning the counters, scrubbing the sink and wiping down the dinner tables. But I can’t cook, am stupid, and lazy unlike all other teens who are great cooks and always actively volunteer to cook
I try, but I honestly don’t have the time sometimes on top of work/exams/homework/sports.
Also, they tell me all the time that I have low self confidence and wishes my sister will not turn out like me. Why are all other teens so confident, active, and willing to help out with everything and even though I try, they still don’t think I’m like them?
Please help me. Any advice.. guidance.. anything. Thank you so much.
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July 28th, 2011
Question:
ok here is the topic and what i have to do.
Some people think that raising the driving age could reduce accidents and save lives. Should your state raise the driving age by one year? Write an essay in which you both state and support your view on this issue. Remember that you want to convince your audience to agree with you.
ok now here is wat i wrote.
Raising the driving age you think will save more lives. Well, I don’t think that will help. We would all love for more mature adults to drive instead of some immature underage teenagers. I think raising the state driving age would be great for the safety of our citizens. But just because we raise the age does not mean everyone will start driving at that age.
Raising the age will maybe stop a few teens at driving in the streets but that is a very small percentage compared to the average teens that start driving at an early age. They will always have the curiosity in wanting to drive. So if the teens wanted to, they could always just try to convince their parents into letting them.
Kids nowadays have girlfriends or boyfriends and they would love to go to the movies maybe. So what do they do? They don’t want their parents taking them. So they just ask for someone to help them in teaching them on how to drive. Most parents would not neglect in teaching them on how to drive because it would usually work out just fine for them. The parents would maybe want to get some eggs from the store but they don’t want to go. So what would they do if they had a child that could drive? Ask them to go for them.
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right here i need to write another paragraph on why am i right. i am against the topic. i need another reason to write about. so can someone tell me a good reason.
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and right here i need “One paragraph that the opposition thinks and why they are wrong” what is in quotes my teacher put down for me to right about which i don’t know what it means or what to write about
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– then this essay end with is-
What the state should do is require parents to be in the car with their young teenager. That way the adult can correct the teen with any mistakes. They could also give any advice to help reduce any kind of damage to our streets and save the lives that might otherwise be taken in accidents.
–i just want some help on the paragraphs that are missing which i put with some line with what should go there. thank you for your help.
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