Posts tagged ‘Family’

November 24th, 2011

i need advice. family & guy problems, teen angsty stuff?

Question:
So, i don’t do too well in school. I’m smart. i’ve got talents in lit and artistic subjects. from art to history. Good college is already out of the question, I’ve screwed up my gpa too much. My parents are always pissed at me. I’m 15 and they’re both in their early 30′s, young and making mistakes, constantly stressed and taking it out on me. my friends make me feel like shit. it’s as if i know what a good friend is, a true friend, and i try to be it for people i feel matter. the only thing is i never get that in return.

guys don’t look at me. i’ll never get why. like okay i’m fat. i’m 5’10 1/2, but it amazes me because i see fatter and chubbier and uglier girls with boys that make them unbelievably happy. i want to lose weight, i’ve been trying for a while. it’s become an obsession.

all i really want is to focus on my photography and art, maybe eventually write for some music magazine and do what i love, but i can’t concentrate and such a future with everything else going on.

any advice?

November 10th, 2011

I’m a lesbian, but feel like I’m letting my family down. (read description) Advice?

Question:
I’m in my mid-teens and have been a lesbian for as long as I can remember. Starting about as early as 5 I have always had a special love for girls. I like guys, but as friends; I don’t see them the same way as I do girls. I’ve wrapped my head around the fact and that I am a lesbian, the only thing that’s holding me back from coming out is my family. I don’t want to let them down by not having biological children and not getting married to a man one day. Certain members of my family are unaccepting of gays and it really hurts to listen to their opinions on gays, because I know I’m going to have to tell them one day that I am a lesbian (even though with the lack of confidence I have about it now I’ll probably be at least 25 before I have the guts to tell them). I’ve been trying to force myself to be straight because I feel like I’ll let my family down if they know I’m not. I don’t want to be disowned or put down because of my sexuality. I’ve always wanted to get married and have kids, just to a girl and either adopt or do artificial insemination. I know I sound like I’m freaking out, but I just don’t want to be a screw-up or a let down to my family. I mean, it’s not like my parents won’t have a chance to be grandparents because I have 3 other siblings…but something in me is making me sad and disappointed on my parent’s behalf… if that makes any sense at all. No one, from my knowledge, is gay in my family so the news will spread FAST if I come out and I don’t want a whole bunch of questions shot at me.

So basically what I’m saying is, is there some sort of way for me to make myself straight, or if I can’t (I have tried so hard, I’m still trying to this day for the above reasons) how can I fully accept and be proud of the fact that a lesbian is who I am? It’s hard because I just don’t feel normal. It makes me really sad. Please don’t be rude anyone. I just really need some advice.

November 5th, 2011

Any tips on hiding a tongue piercing from parents and family?

Question:
got it done yesterday…and just woke up this morning and its incredibly swollen. now this would not matter if it was a monday because I would be in college all day, but its a sunday..so any help please!!!
oh and melanie????
why bother answering if youre not going to be helpful..
“roje” and “god” ….youre answers were vulgar…you disgust me.
November 1st, 2011

Stressful Family problems. Can someone give me advice?

Question:
I turned 18 a few weeks ago and I am an Alumni, C/o ’09..I’m more stressed out than I should be. Usually for average teens, they only things they should be stressed about is getting a job and going to college. I’m really stressed out and I feel like I have no one to turn to, especially since it is after 3am here. I got some money from graduation but my parents told me if I wanted or needed something to use my own money, mind you I don’t have a job yet, and it’s really hard to find one. Then within these couple of weeks my little sister who is 13, acts like a smart a**. The other day, I was out with my boyfriend and I have to come in at 9pm. My dad is away on a business trip but he doesn’t mind if I come home after 9pm as long as it’s before 10. My mom’s friend is over and she sees that I come home late, so she says “JUST BECAUSE YOUR FATHER ISN’T HOME DOESN’T MEAN YOU CAN TAKE ADVANTAGE OF HIM AND COME HOME 25 MINUTES LATE.” she doesn’t even get a chance to let my mom talk to me. Then here goes my sister saying “you know u should come home after 9pm”…

Then earlier, I was doing my mom’s hair, My mom is very tender headed, so it was kinda hurting her but she didn’t tell me to stop doing her hair. Here goes my sister again getting smart saying “that means stop doing her hair, it hurts her” and im like “okay” then shes like “dont get smart, im just telling u” so then we get into a childish argument just because she thinks im being smart. So she grabs my neck and tries to choke me, of course I react in self defense and grab her neck as well, but she doesn’t seem to let go, so i start punching her in her face and her head. so my mom breaks us apart. My sister tells me to just go die and kill myself….Now I look like a bad guy just because she got a scratch mark on her neck when it was her that attacked me first….I am moving in with my boyfriend, his sister, and her fiance soon but I really want to get out now. I have a feeling that If I don’t things are going to get worse for me, and they might actually put me in jail just because of my sister…I can’t move in with my boyfriend until he gets a job…

Sorry this was pretty long but I need advice. Please help. Best answer = 10pts

November 1st, 2011

A neighbour/friend of the family who is a christian fundie right wing nutjob?

Question:
I have a friend who I’ve known for 3 years who has always been very religious but more recently has become a crazy fundie and a right wing nut job.

He hates everyone who is not a conservative and hates catholics, muslims, atheists, and every other religion that is not a denomination of christianity. He ALWAYS preaches his beliefs to me and other friends, and cannot hold a conversation without mentioning god or jesus, no matter what the subject is. I myself being agnostic (which he is not aware of. He thinks I am still a christian) am starting to get very irritated. Its like he wants to shove his views and beliefs down me,my mothers and other guests that visit our home throats

Here are some ridiculouis things he has told me and I would like some help and what you think and give me some advice and stuff to use against him

- he says there were never any dinosours and the reasons we have fossils,bones etc. is that god put fossils here to ‘test our faith’ lol

- he also told me that ‘animals never evolved and the way animals are right now is the way the have always been since god put them here’

- I told him that I did research and found out the King James version is a terrible translation and it has been corrupted and scriputers have been removed and edited in KJV he claims that that is completly false and what ever I read was ‘put there to screw with my mind/faith

- he says its okay to beat your child because ‘the bible says so’ I told him child abuse is very serious and there is a reason why its illegal he says ”spare the rod spoil the child” and people that make these laws want to go against the word of god and beating your child is not abuse .. its discipline

not really that important but he always makes smart remarks he hates sports and I have a screen saver on my computer of Dallas Cowboys schedule with a picture of Tony Romo and he said to me the other day ”that must be your God”

and I was talking to him about a movie I seen the other day and he says ”oh you know your stuff know name the 12 apostles of jesus ”

this guy makes me mad when he tells me, my mom and my brother about our ‘wrong doings’ and that we will ‘end up having to answer to god and burn in hell’ unless we constatly repent for everything we have done and turn our life around

seriously he belives that he is right about everything ! guy is a know it all and uses the bible as proof that he is right about everything and uses the bible to prove that he is right about all his political views …

not really important but he hates sports

one time one of my muslim freinds beat him in a argument they got into after he had nothing to say he just laughed and said ”well i still win because your gonna end up going to hell” and then he left

thanks for your help/answers !

October 30th, 2011

Everything Parent’s Guide To Children And Divorce: Reassuring Advice to Help Your Family Adjust

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October 28th, 2011

How do I get my husband to choose me over his family?

Question:
I have been married for 3 years. We have one daughter who is 3 and I’m due in July with our second child. I really need advice on what to do with my current situation. My husband’s sister lives in the same town as us, and they have 2 kids close in age to my daughter. About 3-4 months ago, my sister in law just started being rude all the time, and my mother in law is always in our business and asks questions that she has no right to know the answers to. We have to spend at least 2 days a week with his sister and she’s hateful to me all the time. Her kids are brats so to speak and fight constantly with my daughter. They have no discipline and do what they want to my daughter, but when my daughter retaliates they yell at her instead of their own kids. My husband turns a blind eye to all this and refuses to say/do anything. 95% of our fights in our marriage are over his family. I really don’t know what to do. I’ve tried telling him I come first and that I’m his wife. I’ve tried explaining to him that if my family treated him this way that I would not tolerate it and all he does is defend them. If anyone has any advice or has a similar experience please help me!
October 24th, 2011

I’m scared to come out to my Christian family and I really need advice! Help me?

Question:
I’m a girl in my early teens, and I’ve been questioning my sexuality for a long time now. I desperately need coming out advice.

I’ve finally come to terms with the fact that I’m a lesbian. Ever since I was thirteen and realized ‘hey – I think being with a guy would be disgusting!’ and started looking up gay stuff, the one thing that worried me was coming out. I think my parents are starting to suspect that I’ve been on “gay” websites and listening to “gay” podcasts, etc. I think it would be easier if I told them then having to deal with being accused of it, so I’ve been considering it. HOWEVER – my parents are very conservative and very extreme Christians…so I’m worried that if I tell them, they’ll do the whole ‘You’re going to hell if you’re a homo!’ thing. I’ve even done research on homosexuality in the bible, and have lots of things to tell them…if I knew they would listen. I’m shy, even with my family, so that doesn’t help. I know they love me, but I feel like that could change with this. I need their support, but I don’t want to deal with Bible-throwing or being sent to therapy. I also feel like coming out might be bad for my father’s Christian music career and his ministry…if people knew he had a lesbian daughter, they might question his music sincerity or something? I know that seems stupid, but people ARE stupid. I’m having all kinds of issues with this, from sleeping problems to focusing in school

Have any of you had to get through this kind of situation, and can you offer any advice? I’m scared and worried and any encouragement would mean a lot. Thanks all! (Sorry this was so long…)

October 18th, 2011

The Whole Parenting Guide: Strategies, Resources and Inspiring Stories for Holistic Parenting and Family Living

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October 16th, 2011

What are some easy tips for starting your family tree?

Question:
Can anyone provide some tips for me on how to begin a genealogical search in an easy and cheap manner? I have interviewed my parents and grandparents but they can’t tell me much about where my family comes from and I would really like to find out.

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