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Question:Today I just had a fuss with my parents. They were telling me how unresponsible I am and telling me all my problems and yelling at me at the same time. They started giving me some rules that I need to follow until I’m 18. Until then I have to follow them.
-I can only go to my friend’s house once every 3 or 4 weeks or so on weekands sunday and saturday and thats only if I tell a week ahead before i go.
-No videogames from now on except once a week on the weekands.
-Computer time is limited to whenever they say I have to get off.
-Go to bed at 9pm
Well you can see here they are taking away most of my freetime and pretty much my life. I’m a teenager after all and I have things to do. This whole week I’ve already stopped playing video games, limited and computer time on my own, and went to bed early just so I can at least see my friends once a week. I don’t go to the same school as my friends because of this program so it would benice to see them and the kids at my new school live very far so my parents won’t even think about me making friends there. I don’t mind most of it but my friends are the only thing I still have to really have any fun at all. The weeks of school are miserable for me since I have nothing to do. I mean seriously… I do my homework and I study plenty what do they want me to do?
I can understand my parents being strict and my punishments and any teen would argue if they feel its unfair but don’t you think is just stepping over the line too much? I need some serious advice or maybe something that can calm me down a bit because I’m just really bummed right now.
I understand that my parents care for me and I am definitely grateful for that but I have standards too not always stuck in the house. I need to get out a bit sometimes.
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Question:To a teen that is actively trying to change something about themselves because something is not working to maintain their friendships:
“Anyone who would be your friend already is, and there is nothing you can do to get someone else to be your friend.”
“Any change you make will be irrelevant, people still won’t like you.”
“Your feelings are irrelevant and not worthy of note.”
Just curious, do any of you who have ever given this kind of advice ever consider that this is how it is being taken by the teen/preteen in question?
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Question:So Mom and Dad are basically not on good terms at the moment – even if Mom and Dad both denies it… It doesnt make anything better since Daddy’s always out of the country on business.
And so today, I was downstairs watching TV for about an hour and Mom walks downstairs and demanded that I clean up the living room since it’s all my lil bro’s and my stuff. I was like “Later” and she got really mad and started yelling at me to do something useful “for once” (I’m a decent student and an active member of band – with national honors so… I dont really know why she keeps saying stuff like that that makes me feel like a worthless piece of crap. I even cook occasionally) So I got up and I guess the remote fell on the ground and she thought I threw it. And she started yelling and hitting me on my left side – saying something about how First – my dad was driving her crazy and now I was too. And she started hitting me repeatedly. I dont really feel physical pain all that much and I just stood there while she took her anger out on me (I think that’s what happened) Then she threatened to kill herself and ran out the door with her car keys and purse and drove away for about and hour. All this time, my little brother (he’s 12) was trying to call her on her cell phone. (My little brother and I take things a bit too seriously I think since this isnt the first time she did that but everytime she does that, we tend to think she means it)
I freaked out and called Dad (who’s out of the country but his cellphone’s global) and asked him what to do since I was about to call 911 but daddy said she was just blowing off some steam and she’ll be back.
When Mom DID return home – I’ve been hiding in my room since she left – she acts like everything was normal: Helping my brother with homework and all that but she doesnt even go near my room in an attempt to appologize.
And currently (five hours later) my left arm is bruised from where she hit me and it’s slightly numb.
I think she just doesnt have anyone to talk to about these things so she tends to lock it inside until it explodes and she takes it out on the first person that “trips the wire”
I really wish I can help Mom – even if she hits me like that once in a while because I doubt my brother would handle it the same way. Since Mom does calm down later. But I just really want to know if this was normal or whether or not this is physical abuse. And I rather be the one to take all that anger from Mom rather than my brother since he’s young and I sorta know what Mom’s going through… I think…
We’re all of asian background so parents hitting their children for discipline reasons are pretty common. I’m 17 years old. I’m not a straight A student and sometimes, when I get a B on a test, she would sometimes blow up at me and ask me why I didnt get an A and call me a useless failure… and so now I have absolutely no self-esteem (something my teachers tell me constantly)
I really need some advice.
This doesnt happen on a daily basis by the way… I think something like this only happened twice – the hitting and everything…
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Question: Of the two types it’s the married ones I worry about the most. These women come in flavors. They are either the, “I hate my husband so I’m looking for someone better”, or ” I love my husband but I also love chatting single guys up because it makes me feel beautiful.”
I get the feeling that the good single women my age are probably buried in their work and trying to juggle their kids as well and don’t get out at all.
I keep thinking I’m going to be single the rest of my days. Maybe I should just turn on my son’s PS3 and kill aliens on the weekends he’s at his moms. (Of course, after I finish my cleaning, shopping, and laundry) Maybe I should just bury myself in my work as well.
I actually travel a lot for business overseas so you’d think that would help but really it seems the problem is the same in other countries as well. It can be worse because of the language problem.
What do people think about this situation? Any advice?
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