Question: I don’t think I could stomach spanking my child. I was abused badly as a child and young adult and I remember the dread of my step father coming home and knowing something was going to be wrong. Every time I see a child spanked those are the images going through my mind. The worst part was my mother allowed it!! I’m about 8 weeks pregnant and we are already discussing details on parenting because we want to have as much worked out as we can before the baby comes. I want to be a better mother than mine and I feel that it means NOT spanking my child. Do you think that is a good choice? Or do you think that it would make my child more unruly? I feel there are other forms of discipline than physical pain. I’d like advice from other parents.
Question: We have a 4 yr old son and a 2 yr old daughter. We love our kids with all our hearts and are raising them the best we know how. Our son has started backtalking us and getting really mad when we discipline him. If you try to tell him something he gets so angry, grits his teeth then goes to his room and punches his little punching bag we got him. After he gets it all out he will come and apologize to us for backtalking and things are better again. This usually happens a couple times a day. As for my daughter, I know kids go through the terrible 2s but I have never seen a child act the way she does. She is really high tempered and screams all the time. There are times that she is really calm one minute then the next is mad at the world. She has always been like this (she was a preemie and they say her attitude really help pull her through the rough times). She also bites, pinches, hits, etc. My ?? is are we bad parents? Is this normal? We want well grounded and respectful kids. Any advice
Well some of you are questioning what we do for discipline. We have took away toys, threw away toys, did timeouts, took away TV, spanked them (God Forbid me even saying that one!! I know I will get criticized for that one!!) Nothing has worked.
Realize. My kids are not like this most of the time. They just have their moments. I know kids are going to have times when they act out I just don’t know if it should be to this extreme. When others see my kids they think they are the most well behaved, polite kids they have ever met. They have manners and say yes ma’am and no sir. AND, compared to those kids on Nanny 911 and SuperNanny……my kids are little angels!!
As for how my husband and I act around them. We have had a couple of arguments around them but not many. I prefer to wait to have our “discussions” until they go to bed.
Thanks for all of your responses.
One thing I do need to input is, my daughter is 2 but is developmentally behind so she doesn’t have the understanding that a 2 year old usually does. She was extremely premature and still hasn’t “caught up” with others her age. So it is hard to know what the right discipline for her is. She is seeing a neurologist every 6 months and he is watching her behavior. I have tried to hold her firmly before when she is throwing these fits but she just gets MAD and I mean MAD! She will scream to the point of being soaking wet with sweat and throwing up. She does have some brain damage from being a preemie that the neuro says could contribute to her behavior. I just feel at such a loss. Her last couple of fits she has thrown I will get right up to her face and say in a firm voice “Stop”. That has helped but I don’t want her to feel scared of me or anything. I don’t sound mean, just firm. Hopefully this will help with her.
Well to the people who responded without being smartasses I really appreciate it.
As for you others who say to spank the kids, if you read my other comments then you will see I have spanked them. And I was wanting to feel like I wasn’t the only person out there with this problem. If you can sit there and say just spank the kids when they act like that then you either don’t have kids or are completely blinded when your kids act out! I know my kids aren’t the only ones who act like this and don’t appreciate all the people who have posted the same crap over and over again.
I have limits on spanking and you can get their attention without leaving marks on them. Other parents, be cautious when asking a question on here. These people will make you feel like you have the worst kids in the world!!!!
Question: i’m 14 and i’ve never done dance,sports,extra curricular stuff like that (my parents never let me)
but i’m interested in taking some classes
somewhere along the lines of hip hop or jazz i suppose
but the thing is,all these dance places i find won’t accept totally inexperienced teens my age
because apparently i need to have previous experience with some sort of dancing academy/classes/whatever
and i just want to do this for the summer,not a full season thing or whatever these dance places do
am i just requesting something impossible or what?
i can’t even do 50 consecutive sit ups
and i’m a total klutz (big feet,really tall,everything >.>)
is there any hope for me?
lol
any advice is appreciated
Question: I am in a same-sex relationship (female) and at the time we stared dating, my daughter was not living with me. She was with her father for a year to catch up in school. My girlfriend was so excited about my daughter coming home, she always talked about it, talked about how much she wanted to do with her etc…I thought this is going to be easier than I thought, as my girlfriend doesn’t have children so I was a little worried about her parenting skills. So we were together for a year before we moved in together and my daughter came home. She came for Christmas vacation for 3 weeks and her and my gf got along sooo great. I was really happy that they had clicked. So the time came for my daughter to come home and it was difficult for my gf.
She said that it was hard adjusting because it had been just the two of us for so long. So okay, I accept that but it has been 6 months and things are actually worse. The only time she says anything to my daughter is when she is getting on to her or criticizing her for some reason. Also, when I correct my daughter about something she jumps in and says something to her too. Im afraid that my daughter will feel like she is being tag teamed. So I stop talking when she starts so she doesn’t feel like that. When I bring it up to try and talk to my gf about it she gets mad and cops and attitude. She says well I won’t discipline her at all, I just won’t say anything to her. Which I don’t want either. This is my life partner and I don’t want there to be tension.
We were going out of town for the weekend and when I told her she said oh yay a weekend without a kid…That made me so mad I started yelling at her and canceled the trip. I feel like if she doesn’t like my child then she really doesnt like me. It is such a touchy subject I just don’t know what to do. I feel like I have two kids fighting for my attention. Im sick of it!!! Any advice?
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Question: My girlfriend is 6 months pregnant with our baby girl. At first, her parents wanted her to get an abortion, and I was strongly against it. After much heated debate, we have mutually decided to keep the child. She is going to parenting classes, and seems to know what she’s going to do. What should I know to provide the best possible life for our child?
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Question: Im 12 and I have super bad anxiety, anxiety attacks, not sleeping all that stuff. My parents are going away today till sunday morning and my Grandma is watching us. At night I have bad anxiety and cannot sleep without my parents being in the house… and school, what if I have an anxiety attack in the middle of social studies or something? What do I do. Any tips
Question: Ok so me and my friend (we’ll call her Heather) became best friends since last year in eighth grade.We were crazy together, always laughing. Then she moved and we got kind of in a fight but the summer after eighth grade we made up and she came to my pool party. She told me she was dating a guy who was a lot older…and she was only 14 at this time. I knew she didn’t always have the best judgement , so I wanted to meet him..He was nice but kind of mysterious, not like the guys she had liked the previous year. I would say he was 17. So I got to know him and he’s a great guy. But he does drugs, and they fight a lot. They used to have to sneak around to hang out because her older sister didn’t like him, but eventually her mom gave in. So, at this point I didn’t have a problem except for the constant fighting…Then I found out they actually live together most of the time!! She is probably at his house 5/7 days of the week! I think it’s crazy…Her mom doesn’t care! I know that my parents wouldn’t let me live with my boyfriend, and they know him well, and he’s my age! And we would fight too much , we know that. Now, I had a dream about this last night, and feel like I need to tell my friend somehow that she’s losing her friends and probably going to lose her boy friend if they continue to live together so often..But I love her and don’t want to hurt her feelings or break them up .. He might take it the wrong way if she stops staying over so often..I don’t want to hurt either of them. So what should I do? She’s almost 15, he’s 18, and have almost been together a year. WHAT DO I DO???!!!!
**Also, I talked to my boy friend about it and he thinks it’s weird too.
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