Question:We’re a legally married lesbian couple (South Africa). We are currently 21 weeks pregnant through IUI (artificial insemination), and although my parents, especially my mother, were very supportive throughout our trying to conceive process, now that I am pregnant, it is as if my mother doesn’t recognize my wife as our child’s second parent / mother. (I am the pregnant one) My mother seems to think that I’m going into parenthood as a single parent, and that my wife is “only the partner, nothing biological” If I was married to a man, and he happened to be infertile, she would never treat him in this manner. Does anyone have advice, on how we should treat this? Or even if anyone could please refer me to some reading material? Disrespectful answers will be reported. Thanks. PS My parents are very supportive in every other aspect of our marriage, and they totally accept us.
Old Mister Happy – actually, no. I am the one who had insisted on contracts being drawn up to ensure that, in the case of a divorce, or my death, nobody can ever take OUR child away from her. And yes, WE are very much pregnant. We started and went through the entire process, and two miscarriages together. So this child is in no way any less my wife’s than what it is mine. Thanks for your narrow-sighted response, anyway.
I never claimed that she is the biological parent, by the way.
